OkCupid.com

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Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 30, 2020

This site has become full of scammers, and the unfortunate part is the people who are running this site don’t see the bullying done by these scammers on the general public. Scammers will make inappropriate comments as they are forcing people to go on their unsolicited sites and pay for the sexual services. The site does not look into harassment done by these scammers and try to penalize innocent people. I think it is better to get away from this site and look for one that takes care of ethical practices and conduct.

45 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 29, 2020

This app/biz is sneaky! They trick you with small print when you sign up, make it sound free. They can email you everyday to promote but can't email you when they are about to charge you for another 6 months! Shady business. Then there are the terrible prospects! Most of the men on this site are looking for a hookup. The profiles and photos they are allowed to post are ridiculous! I wish I had canceled long ago, but was just busy and let it slide not thinking they would just charge me again!

43 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 29, 2020

OkCupid has the most progressive and in-depth features I've ever seen before. It includes answering questions on just about every subject, choosing which answers your ideal partner would choose, and how important that is to you. That's the most impressive part of the site, but what's least impressive is the messaging system.

17 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 28, 2020

It cost way too much for what is offered. Most of the matches they find are all several hours away from my location. Haven't seen a local matches in months. I believe that if they don't find you a match, they continue to make money from those who continue to buy memberships.

23 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 27, 2020

OkCupid.com is the worst dating site both myself and everyone I know has used. First, it allows anyone to message you, even if you don't match. Second, the type of men I have encountered as a single woman are the most disgusting individuals I have ever encountered. The messages both myself and one of my friends received made us feel unsafe and disgusted. As a result, I highly recommend OkCupid.com revamps their user experience, especially for single women.

39 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 22, 2020

Absolute joke of an app. Got banned for no reason whatsoever. My profile hasn't changed in 1.5 years and I barely talked to anymore lately and if I do, I never sent something offensive. Ridiculous app.

34 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 10, 2020

I had to delete my account a week before my subscription expired. Yes it is NOT free. The lowest quality of females. A complete disaster. I felt embarrassed to have my picture up. Read some reviews before you pay for this as all the like notifications that you have before you paid they will vanish after you pay and they will apologize for running low on matches. Read some reputable reviews not Google as they will give 5 stars to anyone who pays them. Run. Save your time and money.

52 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Feb. 26, 2020

A few years ago I paid to see a bunch of likes. The moment I paid, the number went way down, as others have reported. Some of the remaining likes didn't remotely meet my specified criteria for gender, or distance. I complained and never got a response back. The company appears to have no customer service for paying members whatsoever. Now I've joined again, and they are still ignoring the "Must Have" settings for gender, and distance. I specify 40 miles away maximum, and they are showing me likes that are 160 miles away.

46 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Jan. 15, 2020

Free!! Pfffft!! You can join for free, but you cannot communicate with anyone until you start paying and that's limited. Then, you can pay more and get BOOST! Wow. These people run a business like a carnival barker. Stay away!!

67 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Jan. 15, 2020

I took sometime away from OkC. After 18 months I attempted to login only to find out my account had been suspended. Emails went unreplied to. Instead they prefer to take the stance of "if you don't know what you did, we're not going to tell you." A wonderful customer service stance. I was a paying member for years. Met some nice people. Some relationships last a while (hence my time away from the site) and others were one off dates. Nothing terrible ever happened. They are not a transparent company. Apparently, it doesn't take much for them to drop the hammer and they refuse to be accountable.

37 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: Jan. 8, 2020

I live between two metro areas, OKCupid Dating has exhausted matches for me after three days of a paid membership. I keep getting a, "We're sorry we seem to be low on matches" message. I contacted OKCupid and the reply I received told me to reset my matches I had passed on. Why would anyone want to see matches that they already vetted. In my opinion OKCupid was a total waste of MONEY!!!

50 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Jan. 6, 2020

It ıs very big trash company that tried to defraud me. Stole my money and also they cancelled my premium account. I need help and they said, "Okay we start refund process of your money." Gave me a fake refund number, I asked my bank. They said there is no refund process from OkCupid. Also they don't care about my mail.

45 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Dec. 30, 2019

I use the OKcupid app for a couple of months now. A few hits but not one who is talking back. And when you’re not a paying user you will get likes a lot but of course you can’t see them. You need to pay. Every time I take a payment for a month the likes are gone. 2 days ago I paid for the third time for a month and what happened? You’ve guessed right, no more likes. Not recommendable this app.

47 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: Dec. 4, 2019

Ok so I try out this online dating site called OkCupid. It seems like an legitimate site. I've only been on the site for about two days and even paid for an upgrade. So I reach out and try to contact as many women on this site as possible. Isn't this what we're supposed to be doing anyway? Haha. My only crime is I copied and pasted the same message to everyone. Please forgive me it saves some time! Haha. This is my message. "Hi there beautiful girl. How are you? I seem to have lost my heart somewhere. Could you possibly help me find it?" Wow that's an really terrible message. I never used any profanity nor did I ever harass anyone and yet I was suspended for this? What kind of dating website are these people trying to run here? I suggest everyone stay far away from this site. It's just another scam trying to obtain customers' money and little else!

40 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: Nov. 24, 2019

They used to be one of the best but they're now one of the worsts. They'll ban people even for no reason and won't tell you why you're banned. I've seen stories online where people paid for the site and got banned not long after. Ever since they got bought out by the owner of Match.com, they have gotten bad.

40 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Nov. 12, 2019

I got inexplicably banned from the site when I had done absolutely nothing wrong. I had been on it only a couple of weeks (had just paid for the service) and hadn’t really found any guys I really liked so I had barely communicated with anyone beyond maybe a "hello how is your week" kind of convo (not too creative of me I know). Nothing remotely offensive was said. My profile it pretty innocuous with nothing remotely offensive. I tried to email but they say in the email they won’t say why you are banned. All I can guess is some dude was pissed I was ignoring him so reported me maybe? Or my account got hacked? But since they won’t communicate with you and won’t let you back in to the site I have no idea. I would like to at least verify my account wasn’t hacked so I know if I need to change passwords elsewhere. Honestly, use a different dating app. This one seems to just take your money and provides no customer service report.

47 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 31, 2019

Are they posting profiles of women no longer active on the site? I'm pretty sure they are. Most sites let you search by members who are online and most tell you the last time a member logged-on. Not OKcupid. I've received significantly fewer responses here than on 4 other sites I've joined in the past using the same pics and profile. I think they're a bit of a scam.

40 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 19, 2019

I want to start this off by saying OKCupid was one of the better apps for online dating as there were far fewer bots and people that actually talked. I was a paying member for about 4 years until one day after talking about video games with a new match, I woke up the next morning to a message saying your account has been suspended for violating our terms of service. This confused me greatly as I only message matches a couple of times a month with very simple hello messages asking about a hobby, interest, or pet. I never say anything offensive, harassing, lewd, provocative, or otherwise creepy or ban-worthy, and yet here I was.

I tried looking up to see what this suspension meant, and that is actually code for your account has been deleted... permanently. I tried contacting their support through email, and they responded saying they don't deal with claims about suspensions. I tried looking it up, and sure enough, there is a long history of people getting banned for no reason and never finding out why. This to me seemed very odd, especially since OKCupid has a paid option. If I, as a customer, want to pay for their service, I can get banned for no reason and no appeal, and, better yet, I can make a new free account and try all over again.

I would never pay again as they could easily ban me again and just take my money (as has happened to many people), so essentially, their business model promotes the creation of free accounts and promotes short loyalty of its customers... That doesn't sound very supportive, does it? So I'd say, if you don't care about meeting girls at the risk of being banned for no reason right when you actually get in contact with someone, then sure, use OKCupid, but every time you go to sleep might be the last time that you still have an account with this cutthroat company.

45 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer Verified Buyer
Original review: Oct. 13, 2019

I spent $60 for their 6-month subscription service, not just I've never got a date, they don't even have a "live agent" to answer your question(s), offer you an advice or even allow you to make a comment but just a fixed commonly asked question page. I don't know what kind online dating is this which's "useless" and "waste of money"!

32 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 10, 2019

OKC is simply not worth your time and effort. People are using other apps to hook up with credible people. Okc has deleted 4 accounts due to alleged violation of terms. Wrote to them, they never responded, deleted my account for no reason. Here's what I have found, despite their overzealous deletions the quality of matches has reduced over the years. Lots of guys on there act worse than if they were on a ** site. So guess what? I found a ** site with better matches???? You have become obsolete OK Cupid just like Plenty of Fish. I do personally think this site is a front for prostitution and human trafficking, I think they need to be investigated and banned. Let's see how they like their own medicine.

33 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 10, 2019

I started using OKCupid when I was 63. It was recommended by a woman I met through another site. I was attracted to it because it is free, which seems to greatly increase the number of people using it. I live about 60 miles from a major metro area and 10 miles from a medium city. I created a detailed profile, answered hundreds of their questions and added explanations to many of them. I posted several photos. I was surprised and pleased at how many women I heard from, met in person, and went out with, not only the numbers but their suitability as potential partners. I heeded the site's match rating, and found that it was an excellent gauge of likely compatibility. With one or two exceptions, the ~40 women I met through OKC and went out with in a bit over 3 years were great companions and many remain friends. I found an exceptional one who lived nearby, and we have been living together blissfully for five years.

39 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 9, 2019

The date game online is a wonderful experience for me. It is good for my ego as well as it lets me make good friends if not for a relationship. It is fun for me and the people that you can hit up and chat with from anywhere in the world is amazing. I love the fact that you can delete as well as connect. Wonderful, and very exciting to me, I am a people person, so it is so right for me.

14 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 8, 2019

I had been an OkCupid user since 2012 and had never had any real problems. (Plenty of aggravations though.) Now, suddenly, I'm banned and of course they don't respond as to why. And yes I did manage to find their email address but they don't make that easy. Apparently they are complete cowards when it comes to dealing with actual humans. (lol) I know I didn't do anything wrong and based on what I'm reading on here apparently I'm not the only one. OkCupid used to be a pretty good site but over the last few years they have steadily gone downhill with all the ridiculous changes and their increasingly hyper-politically-correct attitude.

You can get around their silly little bans, and yes, I did. But it's the same old monotonous crap and I have finally decided they are just no longer worth wasting my time on.

40 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 7, 2019

I would not recommend okCupid for “mainstream” dating. I was very surprised about the level of personal questions and even more surprised that people answer them. These are very intimate questions that would generally be shared with the right person in the right setting. Some may find the content offensive or at the very least be astonished at people answering having such private questions associated with your profile/pic. These questions are optional, but I found that most men answered many of the questions to the point I found it a turn-off. Then there were too many extra-marital/third party seekers who I couldn’t stop from popping up in my feed.

25 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 6, 2019

\Was using the site just for fun, not actually interested in finding a long term date. But ended up randomly deciding to go on a date (mostly to get a free meal) with a guy that I had predetermined I wasn't interested in because he was not my type...and now we have been together for 3 years. I don't think that the website's algorithm was good about matching us, just got lucky that we were a good match.

12 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 5, 2019

Too many Africans from Nigeria and Ghana on the site claiming to be who they are not. The app is so totally open to dating fraud. The website is inundated with 411 dating scams. I would advise people not to use it.

23 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 4, 2019

I met my husband through Ok Cupid after only a few months and a few dates with other people. I was happy with the site overall. Of course there are some creepy guys on there but that's likely everywhere.

10 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 3, 2019

I had used other sites before and OkCupid had more people in my area. You could also tell if they were new or had been on there a long time. I met my fiance there. You could post multiple pics. Price wasn't bad either.

5 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 2, 2019

I found it to be geared more toward a sex partner. Too many questions about sex. Also matching wasn’t good. On several occasions it matched me with someone who was the opposite of the parameters I had chosen. A lot of fake profiles and scams.

10 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Oct. 1, 2019

Lots of scammers on okCupid. I had to report about 30% of my matches. They use fake profiles and then try to get you to move to an online chat room/hang out. I became so leery that I left the app.

24 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Sept. 30, 2019

Little did I know 4 yrs ago my love life would transform into where it is now, present day. In 2 weeks from the moment as I'm writing this, I will marry the love of my universe in whom I met from the ok cupid app. Within the first week of conversing on ok cupid we scheduled our first date. Since the first date went well, we then scheduled a 2nd. I knew I had fell completely in love and admired every part of her soul and being. Ok Cupid was perfect with our match!

21 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Sept. 27, 2019

We both feel that our matches weren't necessarily picked got us as much as just picked for location. My husband and I met when he was matched with one of my terrible friends, not me. Otherwise I met some nice alcoholics.

3 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Sept. 26, 2019

Following a divorce, I found myself trying to date again but with absolutely no experience online dating. When I got married and exited the singles scene, most online “dating” sites were just hook up sites and kind of something people kept to themselves. Tried Tinder but thought it was silly. Tried Match and found it to be people just hooking up.

I read an article on The Drudge Report around this time reporting that a new dating site (i.e., OkCupid) that allowed premium members to sort potential mates by weight. I never paid for a premium membership and never used the function, but it got me to the app where I met my wonderful wife of five years. We have in that time spawned a wonderful two year old son. On our 2nd anniversary, we contacted OkCupid and asked if they had our old chat transcripts (we both had long since deleted our accounts). An OkCupid rep emailed the transcripts to us and we spent that evening on the porch drinking fancy IPAs and laughing and loving. That’s our story.

34 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Sept. 25, 2019

I really liked OkCupid. After being a member on that site for about a year I found my soulmate so I can't complain. You can make a nice profile and answer questions about your personality or thoughts on things to see how compatible you are with other members.

2 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Sept. 16, 2019

I signed in for this site over 2 years ago. After staying there a few mos, I did freeze my membership about a year and then reactivated it. However, after keeping it opened for a couple months, they suddenly closed my account without giving any kind of explanation. I filed a complaint against them. On their very short response, they were saying they were unable to reopen the account and were also not able to explain the reasons why they closed the account. The funniest part was the name of agent who was writing the response was partially disclosed. Demi and no last name! Bad people. Stay away..

19 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Aug. 8, 2019

I submitted feedback wondering why they removed the ability to 'rewind' on their "double take" feature, which allows you to go back if you accidentally swipe left on someone. The goal of a dating site should be to make meeting potential partners easier, not harder. I said this and they responded with: "We're so glad you're enjoying our new feature!" Either this was a generic response, or it was a sarcastic jab showing how little they care about customers.

24 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: Aug. 1, 2019

I signed up for three months - and after just a few weeks was told my account had been suspended. For what? I asked. No answer. There is zero customer service and nobody ever gets back to you. They bait you into signing up for the paid service and then cancel you for no reason. I did absolutely nothing to justify being cancelled. I am going to contact the BBB as well as American Express, which I used to pay for the service. In my opinion, this company is a huge rip off!

27 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer Verified Buyer
Original review: July 30, 2019

I used OkCupid years ago and there were some decent people on there and I even met a few. Now, a few years later, I decided to try it again after moving to the Montreal\Ottawa area. I signed up and immediately. Had profile after profile of very attractive females in my area appearing in front of me. There were TONS of members in Montreal and Ottawa and in between. I decided to pay for the Premium A-List account so that I could search for the criteria I wanted. Not one profile came up. I was really surprised.

I slowly started to make my search more and more broad and there were still only a handful of members that had been on the site within the last month. It's clearly a scam. When you first enter the site, they show you profiles from people that have probably not used the site in a very long time, but they don't tell you that. I noticed that unlike in the past, there is no way to know when the last date someone logged in. I think this site is dying and they have resorted to desperate measures. Save your money and move on. I asked PayPal for a refund and waiting on their answer.

24 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: July 8, 2019

You can sign up for OkCupid for free. On the free account you'll get lots of likes but to see those likes you have to pay. Once you pay, things slow down to a crawl and you are lucky to get another like. For that matter, OkCupid keeps hitting you up for boosting your rating after you become a member. So the scam is simple. When you are a free member send lots of likes. You pay to see those likes. After you pay the likes stop and now OkCupid keeps asking you to pay (they call it a boost) to get ranked higher so they see your profile. NOT WORTH IT.

47 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: June 3, 2019

This site will FALSELY state that you have (for example) 100 plus likes. This only to FALSELY have you pay them fees to actually see your likes. SURPRISE!! You only have 12-15 likes! Mostly with no photos... But "Thank You for your Credit Card Information and we have falsified your amount likes to take your money"!! Stay away form this crooked dating site at all costs.

48 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 16, 2019

This is the worst dating site I've ever been on and it's so so overrated that I'm pretty sure people who write positive five star reviews were paid by the company themselves. As soon as you sign up, your account will often be automatically suspended as they "review" it, however, if you don't contact them about it, they'll never restore it. And even if you do, they probably won't restore it either. Even if it's been restored, you're going to be suspended again, again, and again, for literally no reason. This is an exclusive site for a circle of special people that the moderators personally approve of.

If they don't like you, you simply will be rejected, for whatever reason they think of (you'll never know the reason, since there is none actually). They ask a lot of questions, and if they don't like your answers or personal opinion on things, again, you'll get suspended. It will be disguised as "violation of the terms of service". Don't bother using this site, the staff won't help you. It's utterly useless. That's the "democracy" and "equality" they're so proud of promoting.

41 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 15, 2019

I only signed up a week ago and got suspended before I even had the chance to do literally anything on there. Tried contacting them about this but they don't reply. Really crappy customer service... Didn't even let me join, for no reason. Doesn't like me I guess? :)

32 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 9, 2019

I was a user from Spring of 2017 to February of 2018. Messaging was fine and I really liked the way the site was setup, until the end of 2017 when a change was made so that only with mutual likes can you read another's message. I messaged a girl in February 2017. Unsure if my message went through, confused by the system. I eventually found myself IP banned, and multiple attempts to reach out were met with vague responses or nothing at all. They would just say something happened that violated terms and wouldn't even give a specific reason.

41 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 9, 2019

(This is what I emailed OkCupid but the email address didn't work.) This morning my inbox was filled with messages from OkCupid, starting with the usual welcome message you guys send out, followed by a dozen replies to the account set up in the name "Eva". I find it really amazing that someone can set up a fake profile using someone's email, with you not sending a confirmation email requiring a confirmation reply before setting up that account - to ensure it is legitimate. I advise that you do so for security purposes - and that's standard today. I have never used your service nor do I use such websites. I immediately went into the account, used password reset to get the password, and shut down the fraudulent account that was set up with my email address (the one sending this note).

27 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: May 7, 2019

I used OkCupid for about a year. As a man, you really aren't going to find matches until you pay for their subscription (but more on that later). I tried to sign into my account today and a red box kept flashing briefly saying "your account has been suspended due to violation of terms. Contact us if you think this is in error." Not only did I never receive an email or any other communication regarding this suspension, but the red box that flashes is only there for a moment and then disappears. Almost like they want you to not realize why you can't get in.

Ok now the infuriating part. They tell you "contact us," but THERE IS NO CONTACT INFO for them anywhere on their website or help section! I did not violate their terms of service and now I can not find a way to contact them. So in summary, I got suspended for doing nothing wrong, they never notified me I was suspended. And then they send you on a fools errand to "contact" them, knowing that they don't have any contact info listed. Highly Unethical. For anyone else still interested in OkCupid, just know that unless you're a beautiful woman, your profile is not going to get any actual exposure unless you pay for a subscription and "boost."

37 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: April 29, 2019

This site used to be pretty good many years ago with fairly decent looking people but now unfortunately it has gone downhill with not a good selection of many profiles worth responding to. We have unfortunately come to a time now that you just can't write a straightforward thoughtful message anymore to any profile at the least is remotely decent to give the benefit. Now you swipe for "likes" which isn't very effective useful feature.

To make matters worse for the women out there such as myself, I have never in my life seen so many UNATTRACTIVE DESPICABLE DISGUSTING looking men in my life. I cringe at these profiles at how they pose for pictures without a care in the world. From taking horrible shots of themselves with fish, dolphins, farm animals, groups of people where you have to guess for which person, you name it, I've seen it.

These dumpy looking men have absolutely no care in the world how they present themselves or make effort to attract their profiles worth even looking at. These men are 20 years older than their actual age, fat, bald, "goat looking creatures" with yellow facial hair, homely, desperate looking and just plain HORRIBLE AND DISGUSTING. Gone are the days and years gone by where men used to be nice and handsome looking. Wish me luck PLEASE!

37 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: April 27, 2019

I used to use OkCupid for many years, until my account was suddenly deleted/banned. I opened a new account but after 2 days that one got banned too. I tried to communicate it with the customer service, however I've never received a reply from them and still can't log in. It used to be the best dating site, but they have gone too far with blocking really good profiles.

20 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: April 16, 2019

OkCupid is a terrible website and company. They are constantly closing my accounts for alleged violations, but then they invite me to contact them if I think this is an error (which it is). But they don't provide any way to contact them. I just opened a fresh account, and had not even used it, but was soon told it was closed for a violation. Lol. I managed to locate their email Address from another website, but they have never once replied to my messages. They actually do not offer any support, and the website does not work properly.

28 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: April 12, 2019

A discriminating, disgusting, offensive site made by leftists. Banned my account for reporting an offensive, violent harassment of another user horrible messages. After that report my account was banned!!!! Instead of protecting my account from criminals, they put illegal criminal behavior on pedestal. This elements are pathetic. They cover bad, horrible offensive behavior. Never answer any e-mails or requests. This site must be banned. Burn in hell, dumb site "owners." They need to be investigated for illegal activities!

28 people found this review helpful
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Verified Reviewer
Original review: April 10, 2019

I had an account where I reported a stranger for sending unsolicited harassing messages. My account was then deleted by OkCupid. It is not safe for women—there is no good moderation. Steer clear of this site.

27 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: April 8, 2019

Although I've been a user for years, suddenly I was told "username/password incorrect" every time I tried to log in, even though I knew perfectly well that they weren't. I hadn't done anything wrong or offended anyone. Complaints to OKC were useless. I've lost all sorts of friendly conversations and contacts. I rejoined anyway with a new profile but now cannot even access bookmarked profiles. OkCupid is becoming an unsatisfactory experience.

19 people found this review helpful
Verified Reviewer
Original review: March 26, 2019

I was on OKC a few years ago, and during that time I got an email from OKC saying that they were going to start matching me with men who were attractive because I had so many likes (see the message below). I was even selected by OKC to be on the panel that reviewed inappropriate content. Then...I met someone and made the mistake of deleting my account. That relationship did not work out, so one year later I got back on OKC with a NEW account.

Now, I am having such a bad experience. Where I used to get many men interested in me who I thought were attractive, now I only get matched with what I consider to be very unattractive men. I don't mean moderately unattractive... I mean very unattractive. I have not had a single date with anyone in the 3 months that I've been back on because of the quality of men I'm matched with. I wish I had not paid for the 6 month subscription, but when it expires, I am done with OKC! I am not happy with how the algorithm is working for me.

This is the message I got from OKC in 2017: "We just detected that you’re now among the most attractive people on OkCupid. We learned this from clicks to your profile and reactions to you in DoubleTake. Did you get a new haircut or something? Well, it’s working! To celebrate, we’ve adjusted your OkCupid experience: You’ll see more attractive people in your results. This won’t affect your match percentages, which are still based purely on your answers and desired match’s answers. But we’ll recommend more attractive people to you. You’ll also appear more often to other attractive people. Sign in to see your newly-shuffled matches. Have fun, and don’t let this go to your head."

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Original review: March 19, 2019

Banned me numerous times for absolutely no reason. Discriminative and offensive leftist site. Does not bother to reply to my emails. Terrible experience, the staff has zero respect towards their customers. Lots of bot accounts used to increase the number of "users". See you in court.

24 people found this review helpful
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Original review: March 13, 2019

The woman has all the power to read or not read your message. Women can send males messages but they won't see men's messages unless they want to. The women on this website know they have the power and they abuse it by treating the men like crap. Also if a woman don't like a man for whatever reason all she has to do is make a false report (true or not) and the man will be kicked off/banned from the site.

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Original review: March 6, 2019

Compared to other dating sites, I think OkCupid has the greatest potential of all of them, even if it's only a LITTLE better. There ARE real humans on it who DO actually message you, and you DON'T need to pay for a subscription to use it. Unfortunately, there aren't that many people using OkCupid, so keep that in mind. It probably only has a tenth of the population that other dating sites have, and the majority of the users are ** or ** people. Not many Asians, but there are some. I've used OkCupid on and off for a few months, with and without paid subscriptions, and I did get a few real, human people responding (but less than a dozen in total). The entire site works off of a "DoubleTake" system, which is completely free. Paying doesn't even influence the system in any beneficial way for you. (I even think that paying makes your matches WORSE.)

Paying for a subscription basically gives you two benefits: You get thrown to the top of the matches list for an hour or so everyday when other users go through DoubleTake, and you can see one-sided likes from other users (like in Tinder), which is really not all that meaningful anyway because of how DoubleTake works. The DoubleTake system is basically the same thing as Tinder's swipe system, except that you can send your likes messages (if you view their profile and send them). Your messages show up as part of YOUR profile when the person you liked comes across you in DoubleTake.

If you're looking for a genuinely FREE dating site that DOES work and you have the patience to sift through totally random matches, try OkCupid. You don't need to pay for it, and honestly, I don't recommend doing so since you won't gain much out of it anyway. OkCupid's probably the only site out there that doesn't gate people from sending messages.

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Original review: March 4, 2019

First, I re-opened an account I made a couple years ago. It went fine, I started updating all my information and put a lot of effort and thought into filling it out. Within' 24 hours I could not access my account because of "terms violations" according to the message I received when attempting with an additional "contact us if you think this is a mistake", with no link to a contact page and no link ANYWHERE on their site to contact them. Luckily, I remembered having this issue years ago, the first time I signed up and filled out my information and being furious, so I went through my e-mail and found the support@okcupid.com address and the e-mail from the last time this happened. I contacted them and over 24 hours later, they finally responded with a copy and paste of the message they gave me before. Which basically said they didn't know why this had happened but my account was accessible now.

During the 24 hours I was locked out I attempted to sign up from Facebook and start over, although I was very aggravated at this time. I had one technical error after another and was never able to log in or sign up (so I thought) using the Facebook method. Later I received the message my original account was accessible, so I went to my Facebook and found the app and disconnected it from my information.

Here's where it gets REALLY RIDICULOUS. I started getting e-mails from the e-mail connected to my Facebook, from OKCUPID. Yet, any time I went to the website and attempted to log in to the account, it told me there was a technical error and to try again later. Their website was down for two hours that day and when it came back up, I was already logged into my account (so I thought) when I typed the address in. It appeared that all the information I filled out had been deleted, I began filling it out again, very angry and sent them a message about it. Then I logged out of the account and tried to log back in, realizing that perhaps it had me logged into the account that was connected to Facebook that I'd never been able to log into.

Upon logging in using my original information, I saw that my profile was filled out, so it HAD been the account connected to Facebook. SO, very frustrated over all my wasted time and all this effort and mess, I logged out and attempted to get back into the Facebook connected account to delete it... only to receive the technical error I HAD ALWAYS RECEIVED when attempting to log into that account.

They stole my face and my name and my information and have made it impossible for me to access this account to delete it. The only time I was on that profile, was when they had me auto-logged into it after their site was down and at that time I thought it was the original, as that is THE ONLY ACCOUNT I HAVE EVER BEEN ABLE TO ACCESS FROM THE LOGIN PAGE.

Essentially, not only did they ** me around and waste my time, they have stolen my identity and refused me access to remove it from their website. I contacted them many times over the last 48 hours demanding 1. my money refunded for the original account, as I had just PAID THEM MONEY and within' 24 hours was furious and wanted my money back. And 2. That they remove this profile they are denying me access to with my face and my name and my information from their website or to fix this "technical error" and let me do it myself. They have ignored me, I am yet to receive a response and I am furious, this is essentially identity theft.

24 people found this review helpful
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Original review: March 1, 2019

Joined this out of curiosity. It is definitely not free and I have a suspicion the ones messaging you are employed by them. All have a similar profile and are definitely too good to be true. I was barred from messaging someone unless I paid. Surprisingly they claimed they were in a few miles of me and I only had to subscribe. Total scam and sorry but I wasnt buying into it. Would rather stay single than hand my cash to scammers like that. Sent an email complaining and surprise I am blocked lol. Zero stars for them should be an option x.

31 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Feb. 15, 2019

While I met a couple decent guys on this site with whom I would like to maintain a friendship or more, it was a decidedly lopsided experience. I wade through more cringe worthy profiles or guys just not compatible with me than I care to admit on the way to those 2 guys. While OkCupid cannot be held responsible for the failings of members (who should theoretically be mature enough to be responsible for themselves at age 18 plus), they let a couple creeps keep opening new accounts after being repeatedly banned. And the creeps kept coming back to message me again after I said no to them.

OkCupid did not take the hint and ban an IP address or whatever would keep that kind of weirdo off. I also question whatever algorithm OkCupid uses because I’ve met a few guys who, according to algorithm, are 90% plus “matches” or “friends” and 10 percent or less “enemy”...but when I met them, it was clear within an hour they were not compatible with me (though they weren’t necessarily bad people).

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Original review: Feb. 14, 2019

Was a member for over a decade, severely disinclined to obtain a paid 'A-List; subscription - and like so many OTHER sites, Match.com gobbled it up to completely destroy any value once had. Have watch the site RAPIDLY decline, sent at least a half-dozen complaints, including their failure to restore my original profile to single-space format these past 1-2 years but, the final insult was expecting me to scroll through over 300 Match questions after capriciously eliminating categories by which those were sorted - went OFF on them, and they (perhaps mercifully) suspended my account...really, REALLY wish someone can come in to fill what will INEVITABLY be the void left by a RELENTLESSLY cash-grubbing, unbelievably shortsighted (no, IDIOTIC) set of owners before TOO much longer - as this leaves Plenty of Fish as the ONLY truly free dating site left, and it's got a whole DIFFERENT bunch of problems for users.

18 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Feb. 14, 2019

I was an OkCupid user for several years, going on and off as I met people and dated. Never had any issues with policies until randomly I tried to log in 3 weeks ago and it said my profile was suspended and if I felt this was done in error to contact them. There is literally no way to contact them without a profile, so I was forced to create a new profile and go to the help options. After finding where to write them, I explained how I believe there was a mix up and please unsuspend my account. They never responded. A week later I wrote again, stating it’s been over a week and I’m still locked out by error. Then they responded and said I was suspended for a picture that was posted. Knowing all of my pictures met the guidelines I went to the help menu again and told them there’s no way, and to please recheck. No response. Wrote again after the 2nd week passed. No response.

Now the 3rd week has passed and still nothing AND the other profile I created is suspended as well. For some reason they don’t want real people with real photos on their app. All of the half-naked women and men seem to stay or people with no pics at all, but a real life person using their app to actually date and get to know people they suspend. It just doesn’t make sense. I am very upset about this as I formed friendships and started getting to know others and now have no way to contact them. I refuse to create another profile, I want my profile back that I created in 2012... So needless to say I will now be finding another dating app to use.

20 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Feb. 12, 2019

Tried it for over a year, met several women but 1 out of 20 was like she described herself. Still, didn't blame OKCupid. However, I do blame them for removing my account for no good reason. Honest, always a gentleman and very careful to abide by the rules, I can only think it might have been a racial issue. I'm brown skinned multi-racial and searched and liked women of all races and colors. However, in the section where you see a photo and decide whether you'd might like to meet or not, they kept showing me mostly ** women. Maybe I'm wrong, but they still removed my account for no good reason.

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Original review: Jan. 29, 2019

I am an educated single man 61 years old. After being on OkCupid.com for months had no luck... After all, my account has been suspended for being too honest. I think I gave them a hard time, recognizing the fake accounts. I spent more time flagging fake profile pictures than looking for a soulmate. The only benefit this site had for me, getting advertisement from match.com and other dating site in my Facebook and Email's account. One star is too many for this website.

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Original review: Jan. 13, 2019

I'm a pretty educated single woman but after being on OkCupid.com for 6 months had no luck... After all, my account has been suspended for being too honest, probably. I think I gave them a hard time, reporting hundreds of fake accounts. I spent more time flagging fake profile pictures than looking for a soul mate. Got obsessed with being loyal. One day I couldn't log in. Tried to open another account - same problem (my home IP address was suspended). Thanks OkCupid.com!!! Got my life back and met someone offline!

21 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Jan. 12, 2019

Be aware of this site. This site is full of scammers and one night stands. I got scammed here guy who pretended he is in the army. The photos may not be a person you are actually talking to. It’s easy for scammers to take someone else’s photo and pretend him. They prey on vulnerable and innocent women who is desperately looking for love. After I got scammed and reported to the site management, but the guy's photos still available to prey on innocent women. I reported at least five times on same exact photos. What’s so shady about this website is that they are reluctant to do anything about it nor hand it over to the law enforcement or FBI. Those people are criminals and need to get off from this website. This company also need to get sued and better yet, our government should do something about this online criminal. They are getting more and more sophisticated. Please be careful talking to anyone on this site.

33 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Jan. 11, 2019

I signed up and paid to see my likes. Within three days of paying for the service my account has been canceled - no reason given. I thought this must be a mistake and discovered there is no customer service number and OkCupid doesn't return emails. But OkCupid is still running my profile on the site. I attempted many times to receive the reset email and that doesn't work either.

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Original review: Jan. 11, 2019

I was able to choose my preference when it comes to age ethnicity and areas in the world. I only didn't like the format. For me it's not really users friendly. I was able to use the other format but OkCupid brought back the old format. Even the size of the letters are too small. Most of the time you need to zoom it a little to have a better view of what you're writing on the chat room.

6 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Jan. 10, 2019

Many of the profiles on OkCupid are on other sites, like most sites the men outnumber the women. After 3 days my account was suspended and no reason given other than I somehow violated terms of the site. It says to contact customer support but there is no email or link to do that. So I was not disappointed because I didn't expect much as online dating is a joke. :P

8 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Jan. 8, 2019

Just joined recently. Several problems with this site including no customer service available. I see over 78 "liked me". However when I click on it, there are 2? I have received "likes" and all but one, when I try to message these men I get a reply "this profile is private or not available." Seems like I have been scammed. Overall, since I am on the free option, while there are many male profiles, the vast majority are among the oddest I have ever seen. Few if any are professionals, many have rambling profiles, have avatars and no pictures, some have pics with their cars/motorcycles, with hair down to their shoulders, pics of their crotch (though dressed), topless with a towel around their privates, topless with a can of beer... The list goes on. Ladies like me, don't waste your time on OkCupid!

22 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Dec. 20, 2018

I have also used OKC sporadically over the years. I signed up for A-List this time, and was severely disappointed at the service I got. I received notifications that a person liked me, but going to the app, I couldn't see their profile in my Likes tab. Only found later, that she wouldn't appear unless I liked her first! WTH? Then I found somebody I liked, took the time to craft a message, only to find out that she won't see it unless she views my profile first. OK, OKCupid. I'm done with you. I'm never going back. I'd have better luck out in the wild.

30 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Nov. 18, 2018

I have used OkCupid off and on for multiple years. The website has gone down the drain in recent years with the changes to the messaging service. Still, I have met more people and gained more dates from this app than any other dating website despite its serious flaws. OkCupid does use shadow banning in the form of cookies they put on your computer that is used to prevent you from getting matches, messages, and signing up. I had to delete these often to keep my computer and account clean. The A List premium feature is definitely not worth it anymore since most of its functionality has been removed. A List only gives you additional search features, but all the other A List features that were pay only before was expanded to free accounts or removed completely from functioning.

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Original review: Nov. 13, 2018

Too many changes, way too much about money and lots of fake profiles. Can't message people like you use to. That's such a big let down. They will only get your message if they like you. That isn't a good dating site.

25 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Nov. 8, 2018

I liked this site when it was new, before all the privacy violations of users' data, and back when you could author your own questions. Lately you cannot. Existing questions are very immature, and the site has focused on quick swiping interface to match other unsophisticated dating apps. It became just that. Lots of bugs, unresponsive support. Also very low user base in some countries and very unattractive men, most sporting an ugly beard. Looks like the attractive men moved to other dating apps, while the surviving user base is score points on personality.

18 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Nov. 3, 2018

I stopped my paid membership several years ago after realizing that MANY of the Women's profiles showed to me were fake (many often stating "looking for Men 28-99"). They run a special re-join for $15.00 about every 6 months, I reluctantly rejoined for the "20% off" price in order to be able to see who "liked" my profile over the last 12 months (you can't see that unless you pay)... What I got was shown Women in the age groups "60, 65, 70, 75" and additionally Men and Transgenders... All of which I am totally not into and have my preferences set to not be shown any of that. After complaining all I got was B.S. replies back from cust. serv. I stopped my paid membership. OKCUPID is owned by Match.com.

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Original review: Nov. 2, 2018

I join as it claimed free dating but quickly found that it wouldn't load anything except the upgrade page. Yes I admit I didn't read the terms properly. Chose the 6 month option thinking it would be monthly so was shocked when they deducted the whole amount. After an hour of trying to maneuver my way round site unsuccessfully mind you. I managed to come across a guy I went to school with that was known as the local ice dealer, he claimed he was 8 years younger than he is, his first line of his profile said funny, honest, doesn't drink, smoke or do drug. So 3 strikes this app is out! I contacted them to advise I was not happy and wanted a refund. This was 28th Oct and 31st Oct and still no response. Is there anybody out there OkCupid?

18 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 29, 2018

I received a message every single time I signed on that someone new liked me. They keep a running number in high visibility onscreen of every page so they want you pulled in to pay and find out who is liking you, as you won't know without paying. There were not new likes, mostly stale ones and they don't remove the ones that you have already passed on, so 95% of my likes were from people I had said no to who were supposedly removed from my searches.

28 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 26, 2018

OkCupid used to be a decent dating app. But ever since it was acquired by IAC in 2011, OkCupid has steadily gotten worse. They have removed many of the features of the original app. You can no longer see who has visited your profile. In addition, they have made it very difficult to get a message to someone who you might be interested in dating: Two people have to both "like" each other and "match" first, before you can exchange messages with each other. Worst of all, it's populated with fake accounts and scammers: I had to resort to doing reverse image searches on any profile photo that looked attractive - in a futile attempt to screen out the vast number of users who misrepresent themselves with bogus pics copied and pasted from the Internet. Don't waste your time with this crappy dating app!

34 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 25, 2018

100% fake profiles, weirdos, transgenders, and PSYCHOPATHS. One in particular named Carla who gave me her number and pretended to feign interest for a couple days... Then suddenly out of nowhere she freaks out and says she is going to the police and calling her lawyers!!! YIKES! OKC is a ** website.

18 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 22, 2018

I created a profile and the next day my account was suspended. I checked the associated email address and no explanation was given, nor any way to appeal the suspension. I did not send any inappropriate or disrespectful messages - in fact I never sent any messages to begin with. My profile page was also incomplete and didn’t contain anything sexual or offensive. I have an anxiety disorder and the lack of communication causes me distress. Was my account hacked? Did someone accidentally report me?

If OKCupid is going to ban fresh accounts with no dirt or terms of service violations, then I’m especially worried for anyone who trusts OKCupid with their most private information... OKCupid obviously has a very diverse member base and asks (optional) information about race, sexual orientation, and voting habits for matching users. I wonder what all this data is used for?

18 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 17, 2018

I had been a member on OKCupid for several years off and on and recently my account was banned. I have reached via Twitter and email to no avail. I am 100% that my messages were not in any way violent, sexually explicit nor harassment of any form. My ex-boyfriend who was on a sexual offenders list is on there and we had a horrible break up. He recently posted his profile back up and I believe he made something up. It took me complaining to the BBB for me to get a response, and they said they received a report against me, but due to the nature we cannot release that information.

Well since I know I have not sent anything wrong, how was that information validated? Did you look at the message history? Did they see if it was a fake profile? Or did they just take their word for it even though it's a false claim? That's not fair to the people who use the site accordingly. HORRIBLE CUSTOMER SERVICE, NO ASSISTANCE AND NO PROTOCOL SET UP. DO NOT USE THIS SITE!

22 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 17, 2018

I tried to pay for a 1 month subscription. I got a prompt telling me that my credit card transaction failed, so I ran it again, only to discover that the first transaction DID go through. So I was charged twice! Now, I have to get a new credit card to avoid being charged again every month. It's my own fault, I know! Stay far AWAY from this garbage site! They will rob you and give you no way of rectifying the situation. They provide an email but tell you, after you write to them that they probably won't respond. What kind of nonsense is that!! Scammers!!! STAY AWAY!!! They stole over $40.00 from me, with no regard. It's sad that companies like this are allowed to continue. I only gave them 1 star because there is no option to give 0 stars.

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Original review: Sept. 15, 2018

This site has no verification process. This site has nothing but scammers from northern Africa and the Ukraine. The only real people there are 1000s of miles away. 99 percent of contacts try to move you offsite by getting a phone number, then they ask for money. No one should be able to put up a profile without photo Id verification. Until they do that it's pure bs. I could personally care less about a photo posted. I want to know about the person. They have attempted to make it like Tinder and no one you pick ever matches. It's not trans friendly because of this. Straight trans haters select your photo and then find out you are trans and troll you instead of walking away. Bottom line stay away from this and all match sites unless you have lots of money. Scammers are going to ask you for money multiple times daily.

17 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 12, 2018

I subscribed to the OKC platform in June and was recently suspended. I paid for six month A list. I was notified today my account will be deleted and will not receive a refund. I have no idea why, but I did write a seething email to the support desk. My complaint is that I am a straight male and filled out my profile accordingly, but for some reason I would frequently be shown trans and gay male profiles. I live in SF and that's not my thing. I was pissed that the my rights to not select this lifestyle was being ignored. I'm sure this website could do better. Account closures to paying customers isn't a good business model.

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Original review: Sept. 10, 2018

I would agree with another review that the quality of People has declined significantly. I was stood up by one user after I drove two hours to met her in person back in 2008 at a restaurant and another user had two accounts and wrote to many guys and jerked me around and jerked other people around. The user who goes by the user id vornamesurname user on OkCupid. Beware of that user! I was so disgusted with the users on OkCupid. I removed my account after the website. Sadly I feel has taken a turn for worse, as I see the users as nothing, but trash on OkCupid from my experience. They could rev up security and not allow multiple accounts from the same IP. At one time OkCupid was completely free years ago. Now they try to screw you if you want to see who has clicked they liked you.

11 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 10, 2018

I made a profile with approx 300 questions answered and in the beginning no photo. Guess what, 2 liked me already, wow that promises something! I liked some of the profiles but apparently not one of them who liked me in return. Most of the profiles OkCupid did match with me, were completely not according to my wishful partner questions. And every time I logged-in there was a pop-up with a blurred image of somebody who liked me. I made screens of these pop-ups and found out that there was always another photo blurred but my 'liked' button was steady at 3. Therefore it is all fake! I'm so glad I didn't pay for it! It is all scam.

16 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 4, 2018

I had signed up for their A List on 08-07-18, purchasing their 6 month program for $59.99. Two days later, I cannot access my account. It is now 09-04-18 and I have yet to receive help after sending feedback sometimes as often as more than once a day. I have sent it directly to their feedback page, to the app developer's email, and even called a phone number that was connected to the charge on my credit card for them. Every single one has been ignored. They will take your money and run with it. I plan on seeing if other people have experienced this and start a class action lawsuit if there are enough of us paying the same lawyer.

28 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 17, 2018

I created a profile just for fun, put a brief message and one photo on there, and then forgot to check it again. Suddenly three weeks later, I started getting lots of likes and messages so I checked them. The messages were from women responding to messages I had supposedly sent, and some said "gee thanks for the lecture" so I wonder what the messages were saying in my name. Here's the kicker, though... when I checked my profile OKCupid had changed my photo to an older gentleman and changed the age to 59 (from 42). It also added what looked like computer generated text to my profile while keeping my original text up top. I have no idea what went on there but I immediately shut my profile down. By the way, there were messages from 12 different women that had the exact same message and the service said I had to pay to see them. These guys are a total scam.

29 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 16, 2018

Stole my money, stole my personal info, suspended my account. And they did so without any warning! What a violation! These internet companies are way too big and powerful. Apparently this company has an automated system that when someone complains, as many people will when they've been rejected, it automatically suspends the account of the person against whom the complaint was lodged. Then a small team of people use their subjective opinions to determine if the suspension is warranted. In the meantime, no notice or communication is provided to the person against whom the complaint was lodged and no offers to refund their money are made.

So there is no reason for the suspension provided, no opportunity to learn from potential mistakes, and who knows whether there ever actually was a policy violation! Likewise, who knows what they wind up doing with all your private information that you trusted them with in your hopes to find that special someone. Yikes! Get out while you can!!!

25 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 12, 2018

I tried this site for several years and initially I met some decent women. But over time it became a bad site; they changed so many features to make it harder to meet people and I then only seemed to meet damaged women. A lot of sexual abuse victims who never tell you their history until you start dating, then the crazy ** starts. At this point I'm done with online dating, as every other site is either very similar or literally impossible to meet someone, based on limitations of site or pricey memberships.

32 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 11, 2018

I have to wonder how legitimate this dating site is. If you're interested in another member, you send them a "Like." And if they're interested, they send you one in return. I'm a man and have gotten a number of these Likes from women that I would be interested in. When I send them a Like in return, I don't get a reply. So I have to wonder... Is this something fraudulent that's perpetrated by the dating site to induce their members to stay on the site? If not, then why are these women sending me Likes but not any replies?

37 people found this review helpful
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Original review: July 28, 2018

I've been on OKC for many years. Got a few dates there. But, in recent months since the powers that be decided to "revamp" the way you contact people, More like "Tinder", the site has gone downhill. And it's gone fast. Almost every Friday night the site would be full of people within 100 miles of me. Tonight there were 14 women on within 100 miles of me.

Now, the way they have it set up, a woman will get thousands of likes before she gets one email. She has to like you back before you can message her. With the thousands of "likes" that a woman gets, if you're a guy, you're out of luck. Many women are not interested in going through thousands of likes just looking for one guy to date.

The site has become pretty useless to both men and women. With the thousands that have left because of the current changes, it's a waste of time to even bother with OKC. Just to clarify, You can write a woman, but she will never know you did unless she likes you back. So, if you are on OKC writing messages, you've probably written a bunch of women that will never know. OKC is a total waste of your time.

31 people found this review helpful
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Original review: June 29, 2018

This site was ridiculous. 75% were fake profiles of pictures cut out from magazines. It should be shut down. How can they seriously take your money with a straight face? I thought you pay for quality. I paid but I guess that is why it is also free. It is not a dating site. It is a scammer site. The only question I have is why? What is the point for deception on both sides? The business and those who have the fake profiles. Truly laughable!

36 people found this review helpful
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Original review: June 2, 2018

I have been a member of OKCupid for a long time. But recently, I have been propagated by their constant messages to write to people. I wrote a few messages in kind asking about hobbies and interests and was involved with a few new friends about life and fun things to do. Then I was suspended. I have not lied about my age or details. Unfortunately, they suspended me for no reason. I have been polite and honest about my nature in my profile and messages. I joined OKCupid to make friends, as I did. But they took away my friends by blocking me. I deeply feel remorse and discriminated by OKCupid. For no apparent reason they have subjected me to being suspended.

It is a wide known fact that many dating sites are affiliated with racism within their comprehensive organizations. I feel OKcupid and some other of these dating sites harvest personal data and promote ethnopluralism within society. I have been constantly writing to them to discuss what the reason is they did that, but have not replied at all. Nonetheless, they have electronically been asking for my IP address which they are able to furthermore manipulate within society for the propagation of their biased propaganda within society.

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Original review: May 17, 2018

Very questionable. In all ways. The quality of men is not there. In fact the scammers are more polite than the men and the scammers are there by the ton. They are pretty obvious and not quite intelligent due to the fact that their stories are all the same. It obvious as well that their English is poor. Do not send money. Men tend to not read your profile either. Not worth the aggravation. I will stay single.

45 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 15, 2018

OKC has over the years, "allowed," scientific research sites to scrape data from profiles. Your profile content, pics, questions, all up for grabs/scraping. That's been reported on. Why would their site "questions" (which they encourage users to answer) and multiple choice answers be designed the way they are? Hm? I wonder. I've used the site for years. Waste of time. For users.

40 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 9, 2018

About a week ago, I tried to log in and got an error saying my account was suspended due to a “terms violation”. I have reached out to them twice and no one will respond to my request for an explanation. This is really a load of crap. I’ve been a member for several years, never send nasty emails to anyone, used my own current photos, been honest about my age, etc. Meanwhile, scammers are everywhere on that site. I guess being honest doesn’t pay.

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Original review: May 5, 2018

I've been using OkC off and on for over 5 yrs. A couple weeks ago, I suddenly couldn't log in. I requested to change my password, no response. I contacted customer support, no response. Guess I'm never using OkC again.

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Original review: April 6, 2018

I hate the new messaging changes. I can't see who I have messaged & who I have liked unless they like me back - so frustrating! I also would like to receive my messages as soon as I get them. I don't want to scroll through endless profiles to find the ones who reached out! So so awful. Probably won't use this site much longer which sucks because OkCupid.com was one of my favorite dating sites till the recent changes. Please go back to the way the messages worked before!!!

79 people found this review helpful
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Original review: April 4, 2018

I was talking with two guys I really liked a lot then I found out one of them was looking for a sex based relationship & the other who knows what happened to him. I felt like I wasted my money on a six month subscription because I haven’t been able to go on a single date with anyone from this site or eHarmony. I hate the fact that most of the people are only looking for hookups/FWB &/or new friends. What happened to dating leading into marriage?

I also can’t stand the fact when I click anywhere you guys don’t have an option for people living in the United States only. Why? Because I’m not going to date someone in Africa, Asia, or Europe or any other country outside the U.S. I’d recommend any other site other than this one & I want a refund. Sites I’d recommend: Match, Zoosk, Bumble, Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel, Christian Mingle, Muddy Matches, Christian Connection, Chemistry. Basically anywhere else but here, eHarmony & POF.

43 people found this review helpful
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Original review: March 21, 2018

I had been messaging with two handsome men. Right before meeting them I gave them my phone number. They both looked very different, yet once on the phone sounded identical! They both said their accent was from Australia. I closed my account and blocked both of their numbers. Beware and be careful!

31 people found this review helpful
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Original review: March 6, 2018

"Hi, Your account was banned from our site for behavior that violates the OkCupid Terms of Service. Your account and photos have been removed from public view. We consider this matter resolved.". That's all I get from them when I ask OkCupid why they deleted my account that was over 5 years old. I have no idea what they think I did that violated the TOS, and would like to access the thousands of messages I exchanged with users over that period. Even the ironically faceless Facebook has better customer service.

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Original review: March 6, 2018

I notice on this particular site lots of people complained about not enough people meeting their criteria in their area... Alas that is how it goes unfortunately and an app is hardly at fault for certain areas of a country not using the app as much as another city or state (province in my case). I met the man of my dreams on OkCupid.com... That is to say I also met A LOT OF FROGS. This app allows upstanding users to moderate and keep their dating community safe by filtering through flags and complaints and basically enough votes to block and remove a person for good from the app because of violent, disrespectful, unsolicited highly sexualized comments (UNSOLICITED l the keyword here).

All in all, the apps questions allow very in depth look into someone who answers honestly, great selection so long as you include to look beyond the 4 walls of your city... And like all dating apps, come the table with skepticism and SAFE online dating practices and know what you're looking for instead of expecting it to just fall in your lap. OkCupid.com is my #1 referral for my friends. It was the only app I used.

27 people found this review helpful
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Original review: March 6, 2018

I find this site reasonably straightforward. I do not pay money for A list, likes or anything like that. I read the profiles and respond if I think I might like the person or if they seem interesting and they might like me. I am single, live alone, never married. One half of the men on this site who describe themselves as “single” are “separated” (still married) or “single” but living together or in long term relationships. Also, I live in Manhattan and am looking for a NYC guy. Lots of guys say they live here (in their profile) but they actually just visit here from time to time and live in New Jersey, Upstate NY or Long Island. Or they used to live here, were born here or work here. They live 50-150 or even 3,000 miles away. So the problem is mainly with the people, not the site itself.

Also, a lot of really not too attractive men here very hung up on a woman’s age. Honestly, these are unhealthy men who I would not normally date (high blood pressure, diabetic, quite overweight, high cholesterol) who will only date younger girls. They do not have much luck with younger girls and consider my age “old” (although they tell me how attractive I am, nice figure, fun to be with, etc.). Also, few of the men I have dated have ever done so much as buy me a drink. On the 2 occasions this happened the men were all over me like an octopus (1st date and second date).

All in all, not yet met any good matches on this site. However, I do not think that by and large there is any problem with this “free” site except for a lot of the weird guys who post there. Mostly weird matches (they live out of town and/or are not “free”). The other thing I have found a little disturbing is how cheap these so many of the guys who make a lot of money are. I usually pay for my own drinks and food. After a while they want to get cozy. There’s nothing “romantic” about going on expensive Dutch treats with strange, unsuitable men. One date and I’m done.

If it costs me $60 to find out the guy is really not right for me at all, well that is the real “price” of this site. Too cheap, expects sex after one dinner, etc. No dating etiquette at all. And these are men with money. Oh well - I just go to the places I like if the guy wants to go there, fine. If he wants to treat me fine, so long as he does not grope me throughout dinner. Not exactly the most tactful group of daters on this site. Plus, some of them forgot to shave, put on a clean shirt and brush their teeth. Not too well versed in the art of dating, but there are one or two keepers out there for me I am sure, so I keep going out with a man every month or two, if I am in an adventure mood.

16 people found this review helpful
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Original review: March 5, 2018

They are particularly horrible in deception, choices in my area and have no customer service. They all say "free" with Online dating services. This we know but the blatant deception of it not being free is particularly pronounced. You really don't know that you'll get nothing in the way of "likes" until you pay. It hides this one basic fact along with emails and communication. This is North America and within every claim, there is an embedded lie in every product, service, and hamburger. OkCupid is masterly at this.

The website is clunky and poorly put together. You cannot isolate photos, which is one of the mainstays of this kind of service. The paid for features are basically unknown until you work a drop-down that says "Purchase Lists". Being such an odd description, I passed it but. What is purchasing a list? This is my main problem; they double charged me and I want that reversed and as a matter of my preference, I don't want to engage with this site whatsoever.

My bank alerted to "suspicious activity" with my credit card. This was the way I knew that they even have a faulty charging system. I emailed after looking for a customer service phone number and there was a lie posted; "due to the scammers, we have no phone contact number". IF it is tightly controlled as to charges, there should be a way to establish to whom they are speaking and could have easily set up accounts with a few questions that each customer would only know. I've emailed them —no answer. Again, I was double-charged! MONEY! It is not even a good site for picks in my area. Their questions for your profile are okay but OkCupid is on another dating site and take note, the picks are not good, they might be for your area but I would definitely go with something "more professional".

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Original review: Feb. 18, 2018

OKCupid is absolutely decrepit. It does not work properly! When I do a search for "Hookups only" on the OKCupid app on my phone, not a single profile of a person who is trying to hook up shows up. When I use it on my PC, the results are entirely different, and I come across plenty of profiles of people looking for a hookup. This makes absolutely no sense! The site/app are either poorly written, poorly maintained, or both. :(

29 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Feb. 17, 2018

I was looking for free dating sites and I came across OkCupid.com. When you google OkCupid you will see they advertise as "OkCupid: Free Online Dating".

After I signed up I was not warned that there will be any charges. I saw someone who is interesting to me. I messaged her and as soon as I did the website hid her profile and ask that I purchase an A-List so I can communicate with her. How is this a free online dating? I don't blame OkCupid, I blame people who fall for them. I can see liars advancing in this world.

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Original review: Feb. 9, 2018

I joined this site as a non paying member first. I was able to navigate easily, I'm 63 yrs old, very technical, was a businesswoman, I'm classy, was in outside sales, know how to communicate with people well. The site allows you to send messages and receive messages without paying. I've had a few dates, one was good, the other didn't work for both of us, I had a conversation over the phone with another, not a good fit. But so far I'm pleased, I paid for 1 month now, just having some difficulties finding if the auto Renew or downgrade I did turned off the auto renew. I emailed the company about this that I don't want auto renew. How do I see if they are not renewing me, no response back in 2 days.

I do think the company is reasonably priced and can work. People need to pursue what they want. Don't sit around waiting for someone to come to you, respond back quickly if interested. I do not work for this company. Just trying to find someone special to live life with. I'm divorced recently, married for 20 years, well educated, in great shape, well groomed, somewhat attractive, but I go after what I want. So this site can work somewhat.

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Original review: Jan. 31, 2018

I actually liked this dating site and was a paid subscriber for nearly 4 years. I mostly used it like an online crossword puzzle, basically I just answered all the dating questions and gave funny explanations to amuse myself. I only had brief conversations (small talk) with a few women and I wasn't seriously trying to make anything happen. Then last year I met someone on there and we clicked immediately and started dating briefly. She broke up with me suddenly to go back to her ex-boyfriend and I wished her well. I saw her back on the site several months later and we started dating again. This time she started having wild mood swings and paranoid jealous rages.

After she cooled down one of the times she informed me that she was schizophrenic and would have persecutorial delusions of me being this cheating type and any little thing I say or do might trigger the delusions. One of the things I had done to trigger her delusions was I had forgotten to disable my OKCupid account when we started dating. This seemed pretty reasonable to me, so I disabled my account in front of her and even offered to show her my brief conversations with other women. I tried to continue dating her despite her mental health issues, but all this same crazy stuff kept coming up over and over in a short span of time and we eventually broke up. So afterwards I decided to go see what was happening on OKCupid.

When I tried to login I kept getting this message that "We’re having technical difficulties, try again later". At first I thought I may have forgotten my password and I tried to do a password reset. I never got a response. Finally, I found this really cheesy technical support form that you can send into them that they mention may or may not get a response. After 2 days I did get the following email back from them:

"You were reported for harassing users. We have reviewed your account history and you have been blacklisted for behavior that violates our Terms of Service. Your account and photos have been removed from public view. We don't issue refunds for accounts that were banned for TOS violations. This was clarified in the Terms and Conditions you agreed to when you joined the site. Here is a link to our Terms and Conditions statement, in case you'd like to review it: **. If you've subscribed with the App Store: Unfortunately, iTunes does not permit us to cancel subscriptions or issue refunds for iTunes payments. Please contact them directly, or follow these instructions to cancel your ongoing subscription: **. We consider this matter resolved."

So apparently I was harassing someone from my completely inactive account. I got no warning, no suspension, no reason other than them saying "You were reported for harassing users". I can only assume that the girl I had been previously dating had reported me for harassment in one of her jealous rages. This is something I definitely think a dating site should take seriously, but they should at least have some kind of proof that the accused person is actually doing something. Or was at least active on their site.

If you would have asked me to review them several weeks ago, I would have given them a very high rating. Unfortunately this is a very unacceptable way to treat any customer. If I would have bothered to read any of the reviews on this site, the BBB, and other similar consumer review/protection publications I would never have given them any money and might not have even signed up for the free service. I hope I save some of you the frustration. They have made me a victim of harassment in the name of protecting people from harassment. I consider this matter resolved.

67 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Jan. 31, 2018

OKC before it was purchased by Match.com was a fairly good website and from experience was useful in meeting new people for friendships and relationship but since Match purchased it and have made all these changes the website is absolutely a waste of time. I'll list several examples below: First off about 50% of EVERY profile you see is FAKE! This gets obvious the more you dig in and give it a try. If you like someone and they like you back all of a sudden they completely disappear unless you BOOKMARK them or write them. If you write them a letter and they haven't yet liked you they will never know you wrote them so your letter and your effort goes unnoticed.

In addition if they do like you and you decide to write them a message the chances are about 95% of those messages are not personal whatsoever and the respondent NEVER replies to any questions you may have asked them and my only conclusion is that someone in another country is working these replies because most the time the sentences and grammar are so NON American it's obvious.

Fake likes are all too obvious. Once in a while you'll receive a notification stating that someone has liked you. If you open to see who it is it either takes you to the browsing mode and or it will take you to a profile that has 1 photo of a bird, a dog, a skyline view or someone they know you would never like with absolutely NO summary or bio. This is the way they keep people signing back in so they can appear to have more active users than what there really is. Since OKC was purchased by Match this gave them the right to transfer photos and profile bios from one website to the other. Hence "fake profiles"! Nearly 50% or greater of all the profiles are people who once signed up and or deleted their profile or haven't used it in a very long time. (fake profiles).

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Original review: Jan. 25, 2018

I have recently joined OKCupid and was a paid premium member for 3 months. I received TONS of "likes" and direct messages so in this respect, the site was functioning for me. However, 2 days ago my account was arbitrarily suspended. My first email to their support resulted in an auto-reply telling me to log in with another device. Did that, got an error message stating "technical difficulties". My second email to support was replied with a seemingly generic response stating that I had violated their terms of service, that the matter was considered resolved and that I would not receive any refund whatsoever. I read their terms at length and find absolutely nothing that I violated.

I have found many forums on the web with similar complaints. Many people's accounts were suspended when a rejected stalker reported them - with NO due diligence on the part of OKCupid. I find this completely unacceptable and impersonal. Furthermore, their use of tracking measures is horrifying and they actually POST YOUR PROFILE ON SEPARATE SITES WITHOUT YOUR KNOWLEDGE OR PERMISSION! Outrageous. It is all hidden in their terms of service which took about half an hour to peruse.

51 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Jan. 15, 2018

OkCupid, which I used to like, is now useless. I used to be able to write women whom I found interesting. I actually enjoyed reading their profiles. I would write women the best letters I could and sometimes I’d hear back and sometimes I wouldn’t. And, sometimes, on rare occasion, women would write me out of the blue. (Yea!) However, women often prefer to let men make the first move (i.e., send the first message) and say so in their profiles. And I’m fine with that. But now, neither of these scenarios occur anymore. With the new messaging policy (2018) women cannot see my messages unless they have already liked my profile/photo(s).

So, if you write a message you have to hope the other person has “liked” you so you can see each other’s messages or hope the other is on the paid subscription A-list which allows them to see likes from others without having also liked them. (Yes, their policy is confusing. But the end result is straightforward - your messages won’t be seen.) But what really irked me today was that I got a message on my phone this evening saying someone liked me and sent me a message. When I logged on, there was no message in their new Conversations area. But I had one more new like. But I can’t see it unless I pay for A-list or “like” every single woman on OkC. BTW, don’t believe the Apple Store rating of 4.2. They have locked their rating so it wouldn’t change when customers protested their recent changes. Don’t waste your time. And, don’t go to Match.com since they bought OkC and have gutted it with their recent policy changes. Maybe eHarmony?

81 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Dec. 30, 2017

I've come across endless profiles on OKC which were gay men, prostitutes, etc. The actual women who use the site are rude, angry nutcases who are there only to insult men. But if you report them, or tell them what rude ** they are after they insult you, OKC will ban you. If men engaged in the same behavior as the women with being psychotic, they would have their profiles removed. But when women are nuts, they're allowed to continue behaving that way. I even left a comment on their Facebook page about this. Of course, they deleted it and blocked me there too.

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Original review: Dec. 24, 2017

OkCupid is a business that rapidly degenerated from a quality focused site to a grubby, overly monetized site with policies that have no regard for alternative lifestyles. Its latest move to insist on first names is incredibly tone deaf given our current awareness of harassment. In a time where safe anonymity makes more sense than ever, OKC insists on making people more findable. Stupid. But this is only one dumb move after a string of crappy decisions, most of which ultimately boil down to squeezing as much money as possible out of members. Furthermore they don’t consult with their members in any meaningful way. These poor decisions are just foisted on their members in a haphazard and arbitrary way.

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Original review: Dec. 12, 2017

I have used this website for quite a few years. Recently I found that it had greatly increased the percentages as to how much people "match" each other. Let me give you an example: if someone has answered ZERO questions on a particular topic, let's say, Sex... they still match you ON THAT TOPIC, by 35%... say what??? It should be ZERO! So please. When you get a high "match" percentage, bear this in mind: the data are fixed. Zero is not the base, 35% is...

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Original review: Dec. 11, 2017

After I got deleted by OkCupid because of its numerous scammers, I was told by a mod that getting a new email account was the way to get back on it. I tried it and unbelievably it worked. However, today, someone who has nothing better to do at OKC may have put two and two together and deleted it again. Well I'm not trying for a third time, as I think OKC are the worst. There are other better websites such as POF and Oasis and OKC can carry on like 'blind bats' into the future.

38 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Dec. 11, 2017

While using OkCupid to find a match I had placed a screening tool as my first profile picture that stated, "Sorry I do not date Republican men because I do not want to date a man who voted for an admitted sexual profiler as our president." To me, anyone that would vote for someone who proudly sexually assaults women and has no problem with that, may sexually assault me as well. OkCupid continuously harassed me about this even though the site claims to find you a compatible mate. Screening a politely party out of my potential dates was to find someone I WAS COMPATIBLE WITH! Yet they allow men to use pictures of penises as profile pictures and send them with absolutely NO PENALTY!

43 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Oct. 31, 2017

My experience had been good until recently. I met someone that I thought was a great match, but turned into a nightmare an character deformation. I reported the accusations and false narrative to OkCupid, and submitted my clarification of actual events. Weeks later, I was emailed back stating that their investigation brought them to the conclusion that MY account was terminated due to breaking their ethics and behavior terms. I've never been so humiliated and disgusted! I'm more than disappointed with OkCupid's team!

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Resolution response: Oct. 21, 2017

I apologize for my previous review. I had a misunderstanding of this app. The match questions help tremendously, I just didn't know how to rate them at first. There is a way to make the "deal breakers" high importance and make the irreverent questions irreverent. The "phantom account" I complained about finally did get deleted. Now that I'm using the app more I realize how amazing it really is. It's the best free dating app out there, in my opinion. The only app I've found that people actually use for serious dating. This can be used as a hookup app, but most users are looking for something real. Also, the security is better than any other dating app I've been on. You can have it set up for only users to find your profile.

Original review: Oct. 6, 2017

My first complaint is the matching system. I took the time to answer 500 match questions. I only answered the questions I considered to be important (like religious views, political views, sexuality, etc.) The matches that were 90% (or higher) were not good matches after all. All of them had at least one deal breaker. The matching system needs work, to say the least. What would help is a way to mark questions as "deal breakers." If someone doesn't answer those questions to your preference, then your match percentage with them goes to 0. The way the matching system is now is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Good luck, you're going to need it.

My second complaint is how unsupervised the accounts are. I found an account that legit said in the self-summary that it was a "phantom account" and he/she was only there to stalk people. I reported this account 5 times in the last two months. OkCupid has yet to take this account down. Who knows how many more of those type of accounts are out there. I don't feel safe using OkCupid. It's too easy to make a fake account and OkCupid doesn't seem to care.

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Original review: Sept. 28, 2017

Every man that contacted me on this site were looking for SEXUAL HOOKUP. I complained to OkCupid, but they just let this person continue to POST. I've tried to use this site on 4 occasions, SAME MO, "I have a big ** like ** man, let's meet today." That's all I get and OkCupid don't monitor these predators.

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Original review: Sept. 25, 2017

I deleted my account. I was on OK Cupid for a while. I had moved to PA to do lobbying in DC. I met someone years ago. He was from the UK and suddenly he flew in, decided he wanted to stay with me (it was only supposed to be for a vacation), wanted to marry me for a green card and I threw him out of my home. I had no intention of marrying him. He was about 500 lbs and a liar. He tried to fight with my son and tried to cause tension between me, my neighbors, the police. He stole money and broke item I had for year which meant more to me than he. Since he wanted to stay in the US I said, "You pay for room and board, get a job and leave. Live on your own." I think I was very clear I didn't want to be his sugar mommy.

He pissed me off so much one day when I caught him in a lie after I found a job for him I decided to throw him out, changed the locks and put his clothes out on the step. Called ICE since he never renewed his VISA and was here illegally. I moved back to Florida and lived here for a while and decided to go back into politics. I was too busy to look at the IMs I received. I received one message which was extremely close to being crazy and after looking at this insane person's profile I know he was dangerous. I called OK Cupid. They do nothing. Not even check out what was said and what was done. This is what he wrote to me:

"You're not only "deplorable" but, also, pathic. I hope the Trumpeteer teaches you frigging morons a lesson as he does every day. Every time he opens his mouth he insults or calls someone a name. Of course, you're entitled to your opinion but, at least, use your frigging head. How can someone, seemingly, being as educated as you say you are and still think you're right. I "kneel" to your asininity. "

I would be very careful on there. In fact I encourage everyone to leave this site.

31 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 5, 2017

So I've been on OKC since who knows when, like at least 15 or so years & it was always great & everyone loved it since it allowed all different types of people including polyamorous people. Well I hadn't been on it for years & I moved out of the country & when I did (back in 2012), everything changed. I barely got any good matches & fast forward to the last 2 years 2016/17, it's now soooo BAD, that it's right down there with POF. All I do is waste my time blocking & reporting scammers & fake users one after another. And we aren't talking a few of these, I'm talking TONS of these every day vs. the ZERO I used to get years ago.

And the few guys that are on there who are real of course DON'T bother to read anyone's profile, so all I get is the idiot responses like, "Hi, how are you?" or something to do with my looks. Half the time I can't tell if they are one of the scammers or just the moronic guys, although women are just as bad as NOT reading profiles. I just realized about 30 minutes ago that their app doesn't work. I wasted about an hour blocking & deleting TONS of fake users, then I went on to my computer today, & the users' messages were STILL in my inbox so I had to redo everything wasting MORE of my time. I have to take a guess that after Match.com bought them out (I didn't even know until a few weeks ago), everything went to **. NOT GOOD!

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Original review: Aug. 28, 2017

This site has interesting platform, even free membership option and Huge quiz.... But that all is just pretending to look kind of professional. Their matching based on Geographical proximity ONLY. You may have opposite political views, age difference up to 30 years, be religious and non religious - still you both could be matched as little as 75%. Could it be real? There are very few members in your area - maybe 5-7 in a distance of 10 miles. And here are The News: they cancelled option to see - who is visiting your profile. How stupid. Is it professional?

For the site pretending to be Professional in relationships. Do they know - what flirt is? Seems they don't. Then how could they be Professional??? What is left there: you can see if someone liked you, but never know - who it was. Could you go and give a friendly glance in return (exactly how we do in reality) - you can't, you have no idea - who it was. Then what is the sense in such "game". I got their senses - whatever they do - they just make "professional" grimace on their face and push you to spend more and more money. But why should you, if there is no chance for you to see - who might be that one, who picked you! What a creepy place! Should go out of business.

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Original review: Aug. 26, 2017

Met someone on here called Jessicasoblessed. Says she was into older men. Started talking on text. She got my number and texted first. We talked back and forth. She sent some pics. I sent some pics. Then all got quiet until the next day. I get a different text the next day by someone claiming to be her dad. Said he was going to have me thrown in jail because she was underage but he wouldn't if I helped his family and sent him 674.56 via MoneyPak from my local pharmacy.

I knew it was a scam right away. He said he took her phone and deactivated it but when I looked up on the OKC site not only was the person online they had changed the area that they lived in. Even the phones numbers between supposedly hers and his the area codes were way different. One was from South Carolina. The other was from Missouri. I reported the profile to OKC. Nothing yet. They still showing online and sent my evidence of the texts to IC3 so beware of these numbers on OKC 8032306482 and 8162599965. They are scamming on this site.

58 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 21, 2017

I complained about no local men to meet, they are all on the East coast or overseas claiming to be ** however it is a ** man instead when you talk on the phone. It was a waste of my money and time, I believe they should reimburse me for the money because of the horrible experience.

23 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 16, 2017

The information OkCupid.com wanted seemed normal but follow-up emails asked too many personal & sex-related questions. This felt like a hook-site, not for relationships.

24 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 14, 2017

I was a frequent user of this site for several years, almost daily. I paid the monthly fee for their premium access (A-List). I was a moderator for inappropriate photos. My account was disabled. As others have noted, it is almost impossible to make contact with this company. I have been provided no rationale for their action nor have I been able to discuss the matter with anyone from the company. I still have a recurring charge for their service that will need to be canceled. My actions to date have been to file a complaint with the attorney general for the state of California. I have notified OKCupid of this action and mentioned my next step is to contact an attorney to discuss filing a class action lawsuit. I have yet to hear from OkCupid.

58 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 13, 2017

The site was good - no better or worse than match.com or eHarmony. I met my partner on OkCupid. We weren't a great match according to the profile but we have similar interests and a sense of humor. It just goes to show that there isn't an exact "science" to dating. Meeting face to face is always best.

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Original review: Aug. 7, 2017

OkCupid.com experiences so many scammers, until when their security and customers are paranoid when they see a ** Male, OkCupid deletes the account. I have experienced this three times with OkCupid.com. Of the 25+ online dating sites that I have experienced (research purposes), I experienced very little traffic while on their site, before OKCupid repeatedly deleted my account. They are a low value dating site.

20 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 3, 2017

This is a free dating site but filled with so many scammers. I am contacted about 15 times a day by fake users who tell me they live near me but had to go to Africa for work and then they were robbed and could I send them money so they can get home. I even had one ask for my Address so he could send me a stuffed teddy bear and chocolate covered strawberries before he asked me to send him money.

29 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 2, 2017

I've only met 1 person here in OkCupid.com in 5 years; spoke with 1 other by phone. I was told that this one is the least meat market of all the sites; & it does offer more free options than any other I know of. I did get hit with an Eastern European scammer, but I figured it out before any harm occurred. I haven't seen many Women that interested me on the site.

20 people found this review helpful
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Original review: June 11, 2017

This is the best online dating site I tried, and I tried many over the years. It encourages long profile essays by providing profile sub-headings, and also encourages answering questions, both of which reveal a lot about someone's personality. OKCupid (OKC) provides an algorithm that lets you score how important different questions are to you, which in turn lets you narrow down potential matches. No other website I tried did this.

At this point, their monthly fees are low compared to industry average. Emails from potential scammers (IP address and specified city mismatch, I'm guessing) are flagged with a message warning of funds transfers. There are many users using OKC world-wide which means that there are many people to contact on a daily basis. Wish list: more transparent algorithm, return to client-authored-questions, being able to see a full list of matches as it appears that only a subset is shown at any one time (I believe this limitation is only in part due to some users wishing to only be displayed in match results while online). I'm a paying member of OKCupid, but occasionally use it as a free user.

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Original review: June 2, 2017

I spent days answering all their questions as truthfully & honestly as I could. I even went over questions I wasn't sure of a second time. I made it quite clear that I only found fit, athletic, slender people like myself attractive & feel any chemistry for... Of course I also find a good sense of humor & intellect important too. I'm very wealthy & material things mean nothing to me. I just want an honest, loyal, long term relationship with someone I'm attracted to. According to OkCupid this is an impossible task. All I was shown were stout, unfit, fat & overweight women with no information about their education or any level of attainment. What a complete waste of time. OkCupid should pay you for answering thousands of questions & DOING ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WITH THEM!

47 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 7, 2017

Sav at ** took it upon himself to delete my account because I put him on notice about the number of scammers I was meeting. Some that I had blocked were removed by OKC but he realised it was a losing battle for him so to cut off his nose to spite his face, he removed me from the site... What a LOSER is Sav. Justin followed suit to back him up...even the input of a moderator who lives in RI and who supported my side of the fence did nothing for them to reinstate my account. This site is full of scammers in my opinion, possibly run by scammers as a tight ship...a bit like the Black Pearl in Pirates of the Caribbean. Woe to Sav. To all those who work at OKC... doomsday is near for you all.

33 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 7, 2017

The Good: I loved the idea of "match percentages" and that I could browse invisibly. The price seemed reasonable, and I got a fair number of Likes and messages. I did chat with about 5 real people, with no success. The Bad: Catfishers. Everywhere. It was a total disappointment. If you must waste your time and money there, or if you've already signed up, let me give you some tips.

1) If a person answers exactly 15 questions (it must be the minimum for a match), even if they write a decent profile, they're probably not who they say they are. I noticed this many times. 2) If they ask you to "exchange contacts" (what American says that?) so they can get your email or phone number, ignore the request and block them. 3) If they're "away on business" or deployed, they are not real. They want your 'contacts' and/or your money. 4) If they text or call you at odd hours, even if you specify 'locals only', it's clear they don't know what time it is in your city; report them as a fake profile. Eventually, I dumped my membership like a hot rock. NOT WORTH YOUR TIME OR MONEY.

50 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 1, 2017

I was going on this website to find me a soul mate. Nightmare that keeps going and going. I have been away from Robert ** of Arnold since August. He had me arrested not 1 not 2 but 3 times. He said I was a nut. Well he was married and still is and would not get a divorce. They need to have a person to verify the information and tell a married man that he should think twice about doing this because he only had 25% chance of a relationship to workout. He freakin put a restraining order on me. I am supposed to be the one who gets punished. Well if someone does a search on him will find this. I say run run run like hell. Because he had a person with a disability since she was 7 years old. Thrown in jail 3 times. He is considered dangerous.

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Original review: April 22, 2017

I was on the site for about 3 months and made some contacts then suddenly started getting error messages and found out my account was suspended but for no reason. Then several months later I opened another profile and again after 3 months it was suspended again for no reason. I had spoken with a guy who was on the site and the same thing happened to him. He claims if you don't upgrade to a paying membership within 3 months they suspend your account without warning so if you're in contact with someone you lose out. Total scumbags running that site!!!

44 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Feb. 14, 2017

Just like with everything else, this website must be approached with caution. I HAVE actually met and dated real men from the site. It's not the website's fault that people are liars, cheaters, and scammers. One guy I met was an alcoholic who couldn't keep a job and was trying to get over a long-term girlfriend who had dumped him. He was charming and highly functional. For a couple of months.

Another was bisexual. We dated for maybe two or three months and then he had some kind of meltdown because I didn't have sex with him on a date. I told him I didn't want to see him anymore. I found out he was bisexual later, when a male friend (who is gay) ran across the guy I'd dated when he (my friend) responded to a craigslist ad. I began to do some digging and saw that the guy had ads posted on several sites on the internet, posting for sexual contact with other males. And he used the SAME online name (and photos) on all the sites. Frightening because he had two minor children living at home that I suspected he'd taken from their mom in the divorce by coercion.

In another instance, I went on one date with a guy. Totally legit on paper. Self-made business owner. Not bad looking but short (which he was honest about in his profile). Jeans and a polo-style shirt but expensive material. Lunch at a fairly ritzy restaurant. He drove me back to my car in his expensive car. Cool... The next day he texted me, asking if I wanted to come over to snuggle and watch a movie. Not cool.

The most recent guy I met on the site has become a good friend. We e-mailed on OKC for several months then he decided he was getting off because he was having no luck and he said he was tired of seeing all the weapons and naked pics. He lives several hours away and we e-mail frequently. Nothing romantic, just good-friend stuff about our lives.

Like others have mentioned, I have had a few issues with the "moderators" and the site in general. Currently I'm having a problem changing my e-mail address. In the past, I received an e-mail about photos I had posted. But I knew who did it and why. A guy I had been e-mailing with who seemed cool requested my phone number. During our one conversation, he began making bigoted comments about the LGBT community. That was unacceptable to me and I told him so. He got mad and began ranting and raving. I told him I no longer wanted to continue the conversation. After I ended the call, I blocked him online and on my phone. A few days later, I got the e-mail about my photos.

In the years that I've been doing online dating, OKC has been the least active for me in terms of actually meeting people in person but again, it's not the site's fault. I am and have always been a free member so I can't speak on the comments I've seen about monetary issues. My advice to everyone is to proceed with caution and use common sense when dealing with anyone you meet online.

70 people found this review helpful
Original review: Jan. 25, 2017

I have been on this dating site for about three years. At least half of the profiles are trashy. Men do not even complete their profiles nor answer the questions. Photos of men and women are ugly. The site is not checked by professional nor ethical people, and they do not even answer complaints nor reports. In other words it is one of the worst I have been on. Half of candidates, at least, are fake profiles and con artists. I spent most of my time reporting men for fake photos, locations etc... It has been hacked and infiltrated by a lot of people from Africa who are "gold diggers", by travelers who work out there in the world and whose address is vague. Registering with OkCupid is a total waste of time and you will be sorry for your experience.

58 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Jan. 23, 2017

This site seems to be launched to screw people, out of around 100 so called 'top recommended matches' I only found 1 person which really exists, all other guys went into excuses when it came to set up video chats, one hacked my email account and others tried to get money after a couple of phone calls. 98% fake profiles.

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Original review: Jan. 9, 2017

I believe there are a few moderators on this site that stop me from receiving my messages. I'm probably the best looking guy on the whole site. I get endless amounts of messages from females, but the moment the same moderator/moderators spot me, the messaging spree stops abruptly. I've gotten a bunch of numbers on this site. I've spoken to numerous women. So I know it's not 100% BS. I do believe everyone has their own experience. As for the other guy stating this company was created by Match.com, he's probably right. Most of these websites should just call themselves back page and put up an ad. I could go on with this rant, but I'd much rather file a review with the BBB.

34 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Jan. 9, 2017

It is a free dating website and the questions asked and the ability to form an idea of the people that participate is well organized. The photos are easy because you can enlarge them. Unfortunately the subscribers come from a vast area in the US as well as from other countries in the world so your chance of finding someone close to where you live are slim.

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Original review: Dec. 30, 2016

OKC has proven to be 50% ** site with 50% of the available profile to me being ** bots and 10% of those actually having links to ** sites. When I complained to OKC about this they pushed it off onto to me stating that "I" have a scammer problem and that "I" needed to block these people. Well I guess "I" don't need to use this site.

42 people found this review helpful
Original review: Dec. 23, 2016

I paid to join their Premium Service and sent out over 600 emails and got 3 responses. As a reference, I am on other sites where I received 5-10 emails a week. When you join their A-list, you get to see " Who Liked You" and over the 30 day period, I received a total of 4 likes. Well, my 1 month subscription ended yesterday, and within 8 hours I miraculously received a total of 10 more likes... Yes, over 30 days I received 4, but after my subscription ended, somehow I received 10 more. I am 99% sure OKC does this purposely so they can bait you to join, but save your time and money - this site is a total scam - especially the pay service.

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Original review: Dec. 21, 2016

I've been on OKC for around 6 month and had around 100 "recommended match" contacts, had several phone contacts, one over 2 months, only 1 of seem was a real guy - We had a skype chat, everyone else turned out to be a scam. It's always the same story, widowed or divorced father, inaccessible as an offshore rig engineer, no chance to video chat, after a while suddenly accident or serious sickness of child and financial trouble. One of the contacts send me an email with a link to "wordpress" to find his pics. After that my email account was hacked. Another one wanted me to send him money to buy an Apple MacBook Air. Hahaha. I wonder if they are using my profile now to screw other people. I'm sure all the pics on the fake profiles had been "stolen" from unsuspecting users before. Is there any chance to find out if they are using my details now as a fake account?

42 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Dec. 15, 2016

I was scammed by what appears to have been a malicious financial attack on my resources. Yes, I participated unknowingly and got caught to the tune of over $3000.00. The transfer of funds is complicated, but I was scammed! Am in contact with IC3.gov, an arm of the FBI dealing with Internet crime. Also, with the USPS as there was use of the mail service. Also, Western Union. There seems to be no way of contacting OKCupid or at least my attempts are not planned well enough to get their attention. I found their website to be loaded with a lot of overweight, unhappy, reticent and not too cool women. Have done much better on other sites. Honesty in photos as displayed need policing! Left the site in disgust.

28 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Dec. 9, 2016

This site sucks! Too many women looking for a hookup or a man who has money. When I respond to an "interest" their profile is deleted. Scammers from all over the world. It's sad how the online ** take advantage of people when all they want to do is meet someone. Your best bet is Zoosk because this ** site will just jack you for your money.

21 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Nov. 23, 2016

Account was deactivated. Filled out online comment card multiple times. Was told that my account had been deactivated as I violated terms of service. All my pictures were mine, I didn't send explicit messages, and I'd been a member for close to 2 years and used the platform daily. I was also a photo moderator. Responded to email and never heard back. They don't care about their customers, whether you're paying or not. Terrible customer service. Bumble is way way way better.

40 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Nov. 19, 2016

I was on this site for a little while, things were going ok and then all the sudden my account was suspended. I have absolutely no understanding as to why. I didn't use foul language, be unkind to anyone or be offensive. That's not my nature. The site says I violated policies but did not explain. I am at a complete loss to their reasoning. I did get the impression this site is very sex oriented and that's not what I am looking for. Personally I would not recommend this site to anyone who is looking to find serious people.

38 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Nov. 8, 2016

I found out someone had created a fake account using my real name and email accounts. This person posted fake photo and information online using my name. This person had carried on conversations with 7 unsuspecting females. I had tried to contact OkCupid to inform them. I filled out their online form and informed them. They are not responsive. I did a Google search and found info@okcupid.com and send an email. That is not a valid email address. There just seems to be no way to contact OkCupid. And since they are non-responsive, I had to take matters into my own hands.

I did want to but clicked on the link in the welcome email. I saw the profiles created using my name and email, as well as all the fake information and multiple conversations this person has been carrying out posing as me. I replaced all the information (some you cannot edit, like the name) this person posted with a warning message that this account is fake and the person is catfishing. I viewed all the conversations this person had in the past few days and replied to each person personally - telling them they have been scammed.

It is appalling to me that OkCupid does not have the safety of its members as a priority. Firstly it is almost impossible to contact them. Secondly, they are not responsive when you do comply with them and fill out the form online. They just simply doesn't care if folks are scammed or get hurt. I would not recommend anyone to sign up with them.

47 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Nov. 7, 2016

OKC needs to have age filters and make the questions section obsolete. 20 somethings sending messages wanting to get to know me. Right. This used to get a decent site and now it's equivalent to Tinder and POF.

15 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Nov. 7, 2016

Terrible website. Besides that there is not a decent guys up here, most just looking only for sex and hook up, this websites blocks with no explanation at all. Does not matter how nice you are and follow rules and answer a questions. They are do block you, especially if you do not pay them extra money and customers say they are pay and get bad results and also got blocked. On the log in message they say “We are having a technical issues. Please come back later.” I was logging in back for 6 month and was reading other's reviews. They all said they never got unblocked. Now, when I sent a few times form for questions, guess what they message said “We receive all messages, but do not promise to respond all.” (Mine never were for even few accounts). They are playing games and do not care about their customers. Would not recommend them!

18 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Nov. 5, 2016

It's called cat fishing... Fake people with fake pictures; OkCupid allows people from all over to world to message you pretending they are local because they can put whatever city they want. This guy who went by the name of Evans ** turned out to be from Nigeria and asked me for money! He was nice but only because he wanted me to Western Union him money (Western Union is another scam of a company who allows wires to strange countries & is well aware of it). Well his profile turned out to be a scam. Why would OKC allow strangers to say they are from USA when they are not? Especially Nigeria - where all scams comes from. I got so tired of guys messaging from India, whatever. At least other apps will not let you change your location.

The last straw were guys claiming they are military away on duty when they really are not military service members but try and get you to feel sorry for them. They are scammers too who only want your hard earned money ladies. Who wants to date long distance anyway? I was in a military family for years so you don't fool me. The local guys are trashy who they lie about their education level. They are only into hook ups and not into relationships. No thanks OKC.

44 people found this review helpful
Original review: Oct. 7, 2016

I was on okc for a year. I received the infamous email where they allow you access to better looking guys. I learned a lot on this site, and none of it good. Everyone who pays for online dating is nothing more than a commodity to these companies and as consumers we know that, but on okc if you're female you are especially treated as a commodity, but as a consumer, ladies you are not getting what you pay for.

Okc has members they hand select as watchdogs to report on inappropriate profiles, mainly photos. Most of the watchdogs are men, and I cannot count the number of male profile pics I saw that were inappropriate and remained on site for months and months, besides that, about 20% of male profile pics are of cars, trucks, motorcycles, and landscape photos. I decided to post my main profile as a sunset to slow down the unwanted messages since okc would not provide me their incognito service, as a woman if you don't have your face up front and center, you are basically ignored, so with my sunset photo as my profile pic, I was flagged immediately by a watchdog as having an inappropriate photo, and okc removed it.

I paid for incognito so I could search through profiles privately, they took my six month payment for incognito at 19.99 a month, that's 120.00, and okc applied it to a continued membership instead, not allowing me to go incognito. I contacted them over 7 times without a response. Turned it over to my charge card company. If you still want to take on the grief of okc, don't do it unless you live in highly populated area. KC is not a small town, but there wasn't much to choose from on that site for men in KC. I'm in my 40s.

I received a lot of angry messages, my profile was nice, my photos were nice, but I was instantly attacked on the site; "someone like you would walk right by me if you saw me out somewhere and you'd look at me like I didn't exist", "I read your profile, you're probably a stuck up b", not to mention all of the vulgar comments, which I won't repeat here. I had a date, one date, and not local, it was close enough for weekend dating, it didn't work out thankfully. He was a serial dater, alcoholic drug addict. Looked 15 years older than all of his photos, desperately trying to hide that fact when we met face to face. He was so amped up on the date I didn't want to trigger any behavioral issues, I drove, picked the restaurant, drove him back to his car, gone and done.

40 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Sept. 24, 2016

I met an Australian man named Ayapi. He seemed nice at first. He is 50, has a daughter, and suppose to have a business. He started asking for sex very fast. I dealt with it. I was going to fly to NSW, Australia to meet him. I changed my mind because he would call me the B word. Ayapi had a temper. Aka, Costa. He soon would tell me that he lost his job, he had to move with his mum. He would dry bag, but didn't ask me for money. I really liked him, we had things in common. I soon found out he has genital herpes, he is promiscuous, and he's a liar. He wanted just to meet women for his sexual gratification. He would make up excuses not to video chat face to face. All his pictures looked different. He has been on OkCupid for years, and his pictures are very old.

I started to think he is a romance scammer. This is why he looks for women across different countries and states. The man is a con man who has lured different women for years in his web of lies and deceit. OkCupid has losers, rapist, and scammers on their sites because it is free. Women and some men are not safe. There was also a man who went to prison for stealing money from women on there. I went out with him, but found out later.

28 people found this review helpful
Original review: Sept. 18, 2016

I've had many of the experiences others report in the long list of reviews. I dropped Okc for good when I saw an *Okc news* video in an online search of two dogs copulating. Really? How upright of you, Okc. Is it a good thing for the rest of us when you further contribute to the decline of society? Secondly, did you know that online okc profile info has been *scraped* more than once by outside bodies who call themselves "researchers"? Why do they do it? My guess is that they analyze it for use it against you later on. Why did/does Okc choose to NOT protect its subscribers? Oh wait... Okc doesn't protect its participants against scammers, either.

This is really just another *one-way* business where the originators get a lot from you without giving you much, or anything, in return. Typical HBS model.

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Original review: Sept. 5, 2016

I recently bumped into two guys up here that asks for money. They will be friends with you for two wks and then using different reasons to ask you for money. And with one I did gave him the money, but then he continue to ask for more with larger sum, and then when you told him you have no more to give, he turns around and start criticizing about you and how bad of a person you are. But when asked "when will you return the money", he then blocked you on WhatsApp. This guy is using this ID call: **, with a telephone number of: **. And another guy name under ** also used excuses to ask you for money, and when you neglect him, he keeps on calling you via WhatsApp, his number is: **. But what is the most annoying is that when I report to OKC about the fraud and scam, using this title "[Complaint] Why are there so many scams and fraud up here on okc?" this was their reply:

"Hi, Thanks for your message. It looks like you're writing to us about password or login issues. Let's get you logged into OkCupid! First, go here: http://okcupid.com/lostpassword and enter in your username or email address. This will send an email to you with a link to log into OkCupid. You'll want to be sure you're entering the email address associated with your OkCupid account. If you don't see the email from us, check your spam folder and look for an email from "bounces@mail1.oknotify2.com", which is our automated email address.

If you've already tried this and it's not working, or if you don't have access to your account's email address any more, reply to this email with your username and the email address linked to your account, and we'll manually reset your password for you. Thanks, OkCupid Support." Apparently this is an auto generated email, and as soon as I received this I replied, but up until now, it has been more than 3 days, and no response from OKC at all!!!

20 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 6, 2016

This website should have a screening process. I was on for 2 months and just decided it wasn't worth the trouble. I complained to OkCupid but I have no idea what they do with the info sent to them. I have a folder filled with evidence that men on OkCupid steal photos to use on their profiles. It's crazy! I even contacted a businessman in Colorado to warn him that someone's using his photo. There were a few photos of Russian actors, a real estate person. How about the same exact profile with various people's photos? These people have no idea men are using their photos. This has got to be illegal. Someone needs to investigate.

56 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Aug. 1, 2016

There is a user named ** & ** named Hector that meets woman online, convinces them they are in an exclusive relationship, hiding or deleting his account until he can convince the woman to delete theirs. Once they do, he gets back online looking for more women. He will start asking to borrow money. He will not pay it back. When he gets caught, he gets verbally abusive and being that he is a police officer, he will threaten to have you arrested for harassment if you keep asking for it. I actually contacted his Chief and was assured that the money would be paid and it still has not. Do not fall for what this guy tells you. He is a scam artist who uses women for sex and money. I reported his profile to POF and it was no longer there after a few minutes. I have also reported it to OkCupid and is still a user after numerous complaints. I am wanting to make women aware of what this guy is doing.

40 people found this review helpful
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Original review: July 28, 2016

I have been on this site since May of 2015. I Google search every photo and I copy and paste all suspicious text. 99% of the users are stolen photos and copied and pasted profiles from scamming sites. I report all of these fake users and I am still flooded with them. OkCupid does absolutely nothing to verify their users. They should offer the same Driver's License or Passport verification that International Cupid offers. Although my daughter and my friend both found nice people, both attest to the fact that they had to go through 100's and 100's of fake profiles because OkCupid does not screen anyone.

Yes, I could leave voluntarily. However, if a company advertises a certain product, one expects a certain level of integrity behind the product and the services. Seriously, I stated in my profile exactly what I would not tolerate, but OkCupid doesn't even care. Don't waste your time on OkCupid. Obviously a free service is useful only to scammers and con-artists. It is worth the money to pay to weed out these bottom pond feeders.

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Original review: July 19, 2016

I met a jacoby in ya dating site. He started begging me for money. I said I didn't have any to spare. He started cussing me out, calling me a ** and all. I don't need that from ya site. Here's his name **. Please block him. TY.

18 people found this review helpful
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Original review: July 15, 2016

This site drove me absolutely CRAZY INSANE!!! I deleted my account after 6 hours due to a flood of messages from guys checking out my profile. After 6 hours I had about 35 messages in my inbox that kept coming. What is wrong with the guys on this site!! They act they have not seen or spoke to a woman in DECADES and come across as severely desperate men who have better to do with their time than type message every second of the day 24/7 like they are immobilized in a wheelchair or something.

One asked me how long I had been on the site and what I did for a living. He stated on his profile he was from Oregon and none of his person info filled out but then stated after that he was a sniper in Afghanistan in the Army if you believe that line. Then wanted my phone number to text me. Very pushy creeped me out. Of course I refused! The men are very pushy and want to move fast which is an obvious red flag. I bet if these weirdos saw me in person they would not have guts to even speak to me but they push their way behind a keyboard and screen.

41 people found this review helpful
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Original review: July 13, 2016

I realize that there are a lot of people who have many unpleasant experiences to report and I am no exception. I spent about a year on the site and had to go through a few tossers before I finally met (and married) the right guy. We are friends with two other married couples who also met on OkCupid. But at first I had to deal with the usual assortment of married men, swingers, pervs, the typical NYC "You Must Meet Every Criteria on My Checklist" guy, ghosters, etc. I went out on dates with six guys before meeting my lucky number seven. I've never been happier. His profile was honest, funny, and intelligent and his messages were respectful and genuine. Sure you have to sift through some BS but I had good results and so have others.

45 people found this review helpful
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Original review: July 4, 2016

Most messages are scams. Keep your messages. They are the same! Word for word... This site has an unusual percentage of scammers. I agree it is run by them.

39 people found this review helpful
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Original review: June 24, 2016

I was really starting to make some good connections. I even found a few friends from college that I had lost contact with, and then out of the blue... I can't access the account. I bombarded the site with e-mails asking why I couldn't reset my password or access my account. I FINALLY got a response today: "Hi there, Thanks for your message, and our apologies for the inconvenience! It looks like your account was temporarily suspended while being reviewed by our moderators. This can happen for a number of reasons, including your account being flagged by another user, or certain types of activity that trigger our automatic filters. No worries, though -- everything's been sorted out now, and you should be all set going forward. Thanks for bearing with us on this, and please let me know if you have any questions or run into any other issues!"

That was VERBATIM what I had received. I go in to login to my account, and guess what? I STILL CANNOT LOGIN TO IT LIKE THEY PROMISED! I have sent them one final email begging them to set things right because I don't want to lose contact with those people. (I work long hours, and I wasn't able to get my info to them right away.) I am pretty much done with their website. I am still hurt, still upset, and still hoping to find someone that will enjoy my company starting as friends and moving to something more. If that is inappropriate, then they can keep their site.

42 people found this review helpful
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Original review: June 22, 2016

2 parts. Many men from other country emailing you telling you they love me. They never meet me. Nuts. Then they asked for money to come see me. They say they working on a job on a rig in the middle of the ocean, they send you pictures to prove it but they're not in picture and they will retire soon and they need money to come home. Their money on shore in the states and they will give it back in return and they have a child, dead wife. Living with grandma. Same sorry story after the other.

Second, same ** with the military. I called 2 guys bluffs, my brother overseas and I said you're allowed phone calls Skype though base and money allowed there for fun and to travel when off duty, also the army pays for your safe return off. You can also tell them you spoke to the military CID unit which is their FBI there and they run so fast. Also guys say they want to get married but just want fast hookups. Not for me. I rather go to a club and meet a real live guy the old way. I got off site.

35 people found this review helpful
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Original review: June 18, 2016

I had been on this site for a while since I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere. Anyway I asked a woman a question about her religious views and I was polite and nice about it. I didn't do it in an abusive or mean or rude manner or anything. Since the person had very close views as me and we both liked doing a lot of the same things, next thing I know I receiving swearing and cussing and the person calling me stupid and dumb and all kind of abusive and mean and harassing messages that I did not want to deal with so I blocked them. A few hours later my account was deleted and I was told I violated TOS which I did not. The other person did. While on the site I also had picture that was in other folders deleted and threatened to be banned for saying "it's better to find someone to wake up to than sleep with.” As in all this site isn't worth using since most of the matches did not in fact match and it’s just a waste of time.

29 people found this review helpful
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Original review: June 5, 2016

So, I had been using OkCupid for quite a while. I would say a year or two on and off. I had answered hundreds and hundreds of questions that the site has you do "for the best possible match". The majority of those answers were in great depth and were very well thought out. I believed that answering such questions in great detail would allow people to understand me better.

Well, in my main profile I had put in there that I do not like 3rd Wave Feminists. I also explained that I am an egalitarian and believe in equal rights for all, so it was not sexist at all. I just do not like the ** who are trying to take away rights and push a fascist agenda. I thought that was reasonable. It is something that I just do not like. I even stated that if the woman was one of the good Feminists (one of the feminists who truly believes in equality), we would probably get along just fine. I was by no means making any hate speech towards women. I love women. They are my equal.

So, to my shock after not speaking to anyone on the site for a quite a while my account was banned. Mind you, I had been signing in, so my account was not inactive. At first I thought it was a technical glitch. Then I did some searching and realized the site had banned me. So I contacted them. They told me that I violated the TOS and was harassing people. I had only spoken to a few people, only had one debate (a debate is not harassment or hate speech) with a Feminist, and it had been months since I said anything to anyone. How could I have harassed anyone?

Back to my first point. Even my actions on the site do not reflect someone who was "trolling" or "harassing" others. No one would have invested the hours that I did giving thoughtful and expansive answers to hundreds of questions if they were there just to "troll" or "harass" others. It would be a giant waste of time. It makes no sense.

I noticed to where before I only got profile views sporadically, after I put my position on Feminists on my main profile page on OkCupid, more women were now coming and viewing it. Next thing I know I am banned. Logic tells me is that they did a false flag campaign against me because they did not like my position. They try to silence and harass anyone who does not agree with them. This is a known tactic by them. So, in the end. I am the one that was harassed!

I have tried multiple times to resolve this situation and OkCupid will not even look into it. I know for a fact that I did not harass anyone or break the TOS, so why am I being treated this way? OkCupid says that giving honest answers will better your chances of finding a match. In reality is if you have an answer that they do not like or their members do not like, you will be removed. So, my recommendation is do not use this site, or if you do, leave your answers as superficial as possible. They do not care and they will not resolve your situation if you are the one that has been wronged.

31 people found this review helpful
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Original review: June 4, 2016

I posted in my profile about helping the "Catskill Mountain Railroad" Not getting torn up for a Bike trail, and they Blocked me. Wasn't asking for money or anything, just want to help the railroad! Yet I'd see women on the advertising for their home businesses, all the time, and some could be considered scams and nothing is ever done to them! I was an A plus account and they did refund my money, but that is not the point! I did nothing wrong!

15 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 31, 2016

I send out decent, innocent invitations to chat/correspond. I paid for "special package" which includes ability to see that my messages are being read in real time. 9 out of 10 "ladies" never bother to acknowledge my presence/attempts at communicating. They lie saying they "missed" me when I see them go to my profile after reading my introduction/repeated attempt to see if there is any interest.

I realize many have been "harassed" but they must know not everyone is a scammer, cheat, etc. Inconsiderate "ladies" if they are actual profiles. I suspect it's mostly 'impostors' who are there to lend some sort of legitimacy to the site. I think the site is a scam! If you mention scam on the site itself then they find some profile to find a petty, almost imagined, offense to cancel what you paid for. How this can go on without the authorities doing something to rectify this is beyond me.

34 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 28, 2016

This site is one of the absolute worse. They are infamous for canceling accounts yet let you continue to see those that you have blocked. Anyone can have your pictures removed yet males can have their ** showing or no pictures at all due to them literally stating they're just trying to screw. It's utterly RIDICULOUS! Not to mention the filters are a complete JOKE!!!

28 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 24, 2016

They deleted my account after I reported a guy who was asking me for money so that he could get out of the military! No, really, I mean how stupid did I look (pretty stupid), I guess. Anyway, if you are an attractive lady who is educated, intelligent, gainfully employed, and not looking for one night stands or to sponsor foreign drug cartels, then RUN! If your life is good, and you'd like to keep it that way, then this site is NOT for you. If you're feeling adventurous, try Craigslist.

43 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 23, 2016

OkCupid's moderators banned my roommate from their website for expressing her opinion, but I was using her computer for my account on there too, so they assumed that my account was my roommate's duplicate account cause we used the same computer. They sent her an email saying we deleted your other account too... LOL!!! What a bunch of imbeciles! How are you supposed to find the right match for you if you can't even express your opinion and have a normal conversation without OkCupid ** police breathing down your neck and shutting you down if you say something that they don't agree with?

22 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 22, 2016

I received insulting messages from random guys on OKC. At one point it really got to me and I insulted one back, so they banned me from the website (blocked my computer and phone) and the guy who insulted me is still using their system! Unbelievable!

26 people found this review helpful
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Original review: May 18, 2016

OkCupid is notorious for randomly shutting down user accounts without providing an explanation why. This is bad business practice on their part, users can be reported by another user for no legitimate reason or moderators can take issue with e-mail correspondences you've had with other users and then you find your account blocked or deleted and you're left without any recourse. Honestly people stay away and don't use the online services of OkCupid. Go out and meet people the old fashion way... IN PERSON. I've sent a few e-mails to OkCupid and nobody from the organization has bothered to acknowledge or respond. Lesson learned.

30 people found this review helpful
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Original review: March 9, 2016

Unlike many other reviewers, I have not encountered Nigerian or other overseas scammers. There was one who used a picture of a London based wealthy business owner, married with kids, and there were some with no pics at all. In addition, there were so many local arrogant middle eastern men who do not take no for an answer. And there were plenty of other local weirdos. These dating sites make you believe that there are no normal middle aged men out there. I am an educated, attractive woman who was interested in meeting a normal middle aged educated and interesting man. I guess, there is no such thing, lol.

I hate talking bad about other people, but after using this site, I think that most middle aged men are either struggling with some sort of addictions or they are looking for a one night stand. And there are so many young men who have too much free time on their hands, which is fine, I just ignore them. I have met about 7 men from this site, including a cardiologist, custom jewelry designer, engineer, business owner, etc, and every single one turned out to be a weirdo. Women beware of those who sound too good to be true, lol, especially the ones who want to spoil you. Thanks goodness, I have connected brain cells and see two steps ahead of them. Good luck to those who met someone special, but all the rest just need to be careful. :)

74 people found this review helpful
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Original review: Feb. 15, 2016

This site is 100% run by scammers. The proof is that the site offers up an assistant in the beginning to welcome people to the site. They also have a email address for notifying them about scams and site abuses. I reached out to both about scammers asking for cash. The "greeter" never answered back and the email address did not exist. STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE ACTUALLY RUN BY THE SCAMMERS.