OkCupid.com

At some point I got like over 200 likes, and finally gave in because of my curiosity, and because of the pathetic discovery section, which seems to be always empty (only like 5- 10 offers every day), if you're on there everyday searching for your woman. OR sometimes it seems to reset, and you'll get a whole bunch and can swipe for hours, but those profiles you already had swiped left on anyways, so no new women, just wasting time!!

So I paid for one month, and there you go, most of those likes came from Kenya Africa, only like 20 in my area, but after cleaning them all out, I ended up with only - 1 - like left I was considering to contact. When I did, I got a reply, that she liked me like 2 years ago, and it didn't go nowhere anyways. So obviously OkCupid is holding hostage of the women who like you. If you never pay, you'll never see all of the real woman in your area who likes you, or their intro... (But this doesn't mean you should pay to see those likes, don't do it, trust me, I doubt the feeling will be mutual, unless you don't care and go for ANY woman)

Also you don't really get anything else than just being able to see who (fake) likes you. Ok, you can scroll through questions you didn't answer yet, but I'm not bored to check this section out (since it sucks so much that they took away the ability to search certain answers to questions you're only interested in. Did you ever try to scroll through hundreds of answers? Are you bored?). You still have to pay extra, ding ding ding, for Boost, and (new) additional super likes, etc...

So in that one month of membership, I'm still single, neither did I make out with someone. I only got to like like 3 women because of the lag of choices in discoveries, no one matched back, just crickets... Also, the actual reason I had to sign up on here, and write a review is, that in that one month my like inbox only got 3 new likes, but as soon my membership ended, and I couldn't check my likes anymore, I got at day 1 already 25 new likes!! Day 2 it raised to 42 likes, and today, day 3, I got already 65 likes, no wait 67 now!!! But they can kiss my sweet ***, never going to sign up again, rather throw my money into the fire pit.

Other reasons OkCupid sucks hard: When they changed their nice old system to the same swipe like Tinder crap. I wish I never had gotten single again. I remember the days when I was able to scroll threw all the profiles in one overview. Beforehand I could set my filters, and only got those shown. Also I was hiding each profile I didn't want to see anymore, so at some point I really got to see only new members, or the ones I didn't contact yet. But these days, it's just broken. For example my max height looking for set to max 5'7, distance max 25 miles, but in the discovery section they show you everything. Women 7' tall, hundreds of miles away, what a freaking waste of my time having to swipe through all of them!

Also as already mentioned, you can't search for answers no more. It just sucks, I should just delete my profile, but it's hard to give up hope, so here I am, still wasting my time on there, but at least for free because a membership does not give you any REAL advantages! I really hope I could help you a little by the choice to rather saving your money, and spent it elsewhere!

- Decline in the user interface. mostly that you may "pass" on a few profiles, and the site actually needs a few moments to load more. Yet Bumble and other sites don't have this sort of issue.

I've seen profiles with next to 0 filters filled in, yet I somehow get 90%+ matching. I've seen profiles where I set that I do not date smokers, want kids, and not religious, yet I'm a 90%+ match to smokers who don't want kids and are deeply religious... yet I rate closer to 30-50% on profiles that actually have the metrics I am actually looking for.

Let me clarify... yes, you can set to be in a certain region. They have the stacks for: match, recommended, nearby, online, nearby, a passport feature (international profiles), and whatever recent tags they add (at the moment "pro-choice" and "vaccinated" are in stacks you can search by). Other than the online, a free user has no way of knowing if a profile was generated in the last 12 hours or last 12 months. So good luck if you think the person will actually respond.

So the so-called "premier" package lets you see who likes you and who your number of likes/intros is increased. Problem? The "popular" and "new people" however don't simply require the "premier" membership... no... you have to pay an additional $1.99 for a week... for each. Welcome to MTX.

Yes, yes. Free online dating site so you are going to see this regardless. But in the last 5 years, the number of these profiles has increased exponentially. The only times I get responses, they end up saying I have to chat offsite (which you don't need to do... it's free...), try to get you to send money, or go straight into cybering. Or they try to con you into thinking they actually live in your area. For women, it's worse. I've had a few chats with women who responded to me because I explicitly did not open with a 1 word variant of "hi" or tried to ask for pics or to hook up on the literal first message. Maybe it is the hook up culture that is dragging it down, maybe it is a variant of bot. But these are chasing away women from the site in a matter of hours after signing up.

Let me be clear: I set my discovery to be wide open. No filters for height, weight, kids, smoking, etc. Yet, I'm having to go to the "Questions" section to get more profiles to look at. The questions are based on about 5000 random questions that users or the site generated asking about every nuance of your life. There is also a keyword search. So you can look for Sports and ideology, to just looking for "the" and "and". I get more profiles to look at via this message than I typically see in their Discover section.

OKC forces this option on you. Even if you set your distance to 250, 50, or 5 miles. This stack is ALWAYS in your Discover section. In addition, you can't really prevent yourself from being searched by profiles in Africa, Asian, South America, etc. Those profiles will "like" you. They never...NEVER... send an intro message. They only send a "like".

If a user "likes" you, it never goes away... unless... you manage to randomly find the user in Africa or Asia and block them (I've tried "passing"... that is statistically a bit random if it actually removes the Like) or if the profile is somehow removed (and even that seems to be a bit spotty).

My membership literally ended 12 hours ago, prior to me creating this review. I received 24 likes (managed to block 2... based in Uganda... to bring the count down to 22). About 4 years ago, the Match group was hit by a class action lawsuit where this sort of predatory behavior to get user to buy into a membership package to false "likes" to say they should not do it. They did not listen. They did not learn. They continue this practice.

So, in summary. Should you use it? No. If you do, stay a free user. Don't give OKC/Match money. It won't actually improve your experience. In 10+ years, I haven't had a date from the site in 2 years. Also been about that long since I last talked to someone that wasn't a bot, fake, a scammer, or wasn't living outside the United States. I'm done with this organization. My advice is for you to stay away as well.

--- if you care about any kinda strict matchmaking criteria, do NOT depend on the site's system to filter out any non-negotiables you specify in your preferences -- the site "don't care".

If you can stomach all that, give it a whirl -- depending on population density near you -- you might get a couple bites. Keep expectations low and you'll be okay. In the 3-4 days I tried it, I'm still talking to one of my matches. 3 girls matched, 1 was an "accidental like", the other 2, 1 I was just kinda puttin' a feeler out, and the last was a genuine interesting prospect -- she's the one still talkin' to me. They were 3 "mutuals" of of the 21 likes I received in a 96-hour window...the other 18, I assume were like another reviewer commented, and prolly fake or dead/inactive profiles.

I literally only deliberately commented or gave a "like" to maybe 20 girls or pictures or whatever out of the 4-5 hundred profiles I saw. I eventually reached the end of the "stack" (potential matches) and there are like 4-5 stacks based on "online status," "proximity/location," "match" level (which is based on the compatibility of answers in their personality questionnaire), "recommended" (assume it's a different form of match compatibility but have no insight as to how it differs from "match"), and then "passport" which is if you wanna find international candidates. There's the straight dope, y'all!

Furthermore the only response I received was from a lady that was telling lies about herself in her profile falsely claiming she was single and alone but really is living with her baby daddy and her daughter doing this okcupid stuff behind his back, and claims she has multiple men she gets with behind her baby daddy back. It seems that all she wanted from me and every other guy was phone sex and porn pics, once I refused she was gone like the wind. So to all you married men or married women or anyone who has a boyfriend or girlfriend, you will probably find your lover on okcupid trying to cheat on you with a hookup maybe even for money. Okcupd is disgusting. I hope the feds shut it down soon.

Half of the people on okcupid.com are drug addicts or gang members trying to set you up to be robbed or somehow you'll be catfished. okcupid.com cannot trusted with any of your information, just to the fact, only time these accounts of Spam and Ai are reported by the users not by the Admins of okcupid.com. They'll take your personal information and sell it without your knowledge, or the spammed and Ai accounts that is on OKcupid.com will breach your personal information and exploit it to the fullest.

Based upon the questions I was asked during signup and also when I was fleshing out my profile, OKCupid (OKC) came across as being very "politically correct" and far left biased. I was asked at least a dozen times about my voting habits alone. What does that have to do with finding a date? Other examples of some of the questions are "Would you date someone who doesn't support the #Metoo movement?", "Overall has capitalism made the world a better place?" and "Communism, in concept...", several more question about supporting gun control, many on COVID and related, quite a few related to political activism etc.

Speaking of activism, I noticed blog entries and general themes suggesting that this is a big deal with members of the site. No one else allowed... or at least that's how I felt. It's great for someone who subscribes to that particular viewpoint and lifestyle, but not so much for anyone else. Especially for those of us who after all that has happened in 2020 have absolutely had it with politics across the board and just want to start living life again, the pandering on OKC is a gargantuan turn-off. I suspect (though I can't prove obviously) that the reason I got banned is that I don't share the same viewpoints that OKC seems to support. Vive la Différence!

Even with taking politics out of the equation, the quality and write-up of the questions leaves a lot to be desired. Spelling and grammar mistakes galore. Most of the questions are poorly worded, some are outright incoherent, and answer choices given are black and white either-or. It may sound like I'm picking at nits, but trying to answer a questionnaire that is poorly written and sometimes hard to understand is no fun!

Ironically, I was initially considering buying a month's subscription. For the brief time I was on OKC I actually spotted an old friend in the listings and wanted to drop them a line. I know the site is supposed to offer free messaging, but wasn't sure that a truly free exchange was going to be possible which is why I was thinking of subbing. Either way I think I successfully dodged a bullet!

Speaking of subscriptions, the cost on OKC seems pretty high compared to some other sites I'm familiar with. A full month premium sub on OKC which unlocks all the features costs approx ~$35/mo. That same amount of money will purchase 3 months of service on Plenty of Fish, which incidentally is a much larger site. eHarmony and Adult Friend Finder (AFF) both cost about the same on a monthly basis as OKC, but I feel that the user gets more bang for the buck if for no other reason than a larger user base to play with and the obvious adult features that goes with AFF. Yes I know the cost goes down per/month the larger the block of time purchased, but that's standard with all dating sites these days. However for OKC it doesn't stop there. If you want to boost your profile to make it more visible for a short time, 15 minutes at a time if I recall the site info correctly, be prepared to pay up!

The other complaints I see from other reviewers on here I can vouch for in a lot of cases. Within the first few minutes of signing up (suspiciously fast) I suddenly had several "hits", people who supposedly clicked on my profile and were interested in meeting. They were of course all blurred out, so no idea if they were legit. I felt it was a pretty obvious lure to get the new user to pay for a subscription. I wasn't on long enough to encounter any scammers or catfishers, however I don't doubt the claims of the others one bit as it's a serious problem on all the "free" dating sites.

The matching system is pretty strange too. One user I ran across shared a 99% (!) compatibility score match with me. Obviously intrigued, I checked out her profile as I wanted to see what a 99% match would be like... I mean could this possibly be my long lost twin whom we got separated at birth? LOL! Not exactly... not even that close in reality. While we did agree on many points, there were quite a few major points we didn't, and a lot of those points I don't think either one of us would have been willing to budge on.

For those who were ever members on the site "MyYearbook" (MYB) or when it was later bought out and became "MeetMe", the feel of OKC is very similar. Specifically when MYB introduced their dating game, they way they asked and presented the questions is identical. Same for the way they used to match people. It actually makes me wonder if OKC is a spinoff of those two sites or if the developers simply grabbed the code and made it fit for their purposes.

Overall my outlook on OKC is pretty negative. The political aspect is something I found to be bothersome and not something I want to get involved with on a dating site. Good for the reader who is into such things, but I think the vast majority of people on dating sites... myself inclusive... are there for the (*gasp!*) dates; not to debate the finer points of democratic socialism! LOL! Customer service is about as horrible as it comes, and looking at other reviews, what happened to me seems to be a common problem... nice to know guys! The algorithm that determines compatibility is whacked, as are the quality of the questions. Finally OKC is still a very small site compared to others, yet they still charge a premium for service compared to other sites. Verdict: AVOID!!! AVOID!!! AVOID!!!

Furthermore, I had an issue with “faulty verification” with my account. I sent a support message requesting assistance. To this day, over a month later, I haven’t received one email from them asking how they can assist me. When I did make a new email account, I couldn’t delete my old account. Furthermore, the changed the whole app dynamics, 10 free “likes/first messages”, new fee structures, unable to browse in the age, ethnicity, religion or location you request. This app has truly gone downhill and is only looking out for advertising dollars and your recurring fees and not the consumer.