
Jill of Woodcliff Lake, NJ on July 8, 2008
Yesterday, my almost 10 year old daughter and I were clothes shopping for her and I had my one and a half year old son in his stroller at Burlington Coat Factory in Paramus, NJ. When we were ready to try things on we asked a sales person for directions to the fitting room and he pointed us in a direction but when we got to the end there was no fitting room so we asked another associate who directed us to one a little ways further. Once there, we went to the handicapped fitting room because it was the largest and could accomodate the stroller my baby was sitting in. Naturally, no one was waiting for that room or we wouldn't have used it.
The lock didn't work (we tried it a few times) but I assured my daughter that no one was coming in. Turns out I was wrong. At some point during the trying on, my baby began fussing and I took him out of the stroller to nurse him. Suddenly, we heard an angry man's voice telling us we can't be in that fitting room, that it's for men and we need to make sure to take our try-ons with us when we go.
I didn't immediately know where the voice was coming from until I saw a man peering down at us over the door--as I nursed my son and my daughter rushed to cover herself. Then, after having looked at us and spoken to us from over the door (at NO point did he knock) he opened it to continue his admonishment of us. We hurried out of there and I immediately asked to speak with a manager.
I was taken to Cathy (or Kathy, I didn't think to ask) who was argumentative, defensive, rude and indignant. She couldn't emphasize enough that we were in the wrong fitting area as I couldn't respond enough times that this is where the Burlington staff sent us. She wanted to know who. I said, I just asked an associate, in passing, where the fitting room is, I didn't say, 'Oh, and may I have your name and social security number in case there's an incident I need to report.' To be fair, the dressing room was in the men's clothing area but I never saw a sign saying Men's on it like it's a bathroom. Burlington doesn't provide their customers with a map upon arrival. I almost never go there and I never tried something on there so how should I intuitively know where the fitting room is? (And FYI, the fitting room for both men and women is in the boys' dept. in our local Kmart, if I'm not mistaken.)
Further, our being in the wrong fitting room doesn't give their staff the right to walk in on us unannounced. In addition, Cathy was totally fixated on my nursing. I shouldn't have mentioned it to her. She told me repeatedly that there's a restroom or some other place for me to nurse. I tried to impress upon her that my pre-teen's state of undress and the violation of her privacy was much more the issue for me but it completely fell on deaf ears. I told her I don't care if someone sees me nurse. It's not illegal and after nursing 3 babies I am able to do it thoroughly discretely.
Bopttom line: Neither Cathy nor the peeping men's department employee ever apologised for the misunderstanding, if that's what it was. Cathy never said, Oh, how unfortunate. I'll speak to him about this. If anything, she belligerently maintained that we were at fault for being in the wrong fitting room (the one to which we were sent by her staff and which, by the way, was practically deserted--no one was waiting for any of the rooms so who were we bothering?) and for my nursing my child in the wrong place (no matter how many times I tried to explain that my nursing was irrelevant compared to my daughter's situation). She was shockingly rude, quarrelsome, even puerile for someone in a managerial position in which I would think tact or good diplomatic skills would be valued. At the end of what was all confrontation and no discussion, Cathy concluded with something moronic like Ma'am, you're not a nice lady, ma'am. Needless to say, we will never be shopping at Burlington Coat Factory again.
Just totally infuriating, humiliating and traumatic. They're an awful company to hire the belligerent staff they have.