The key to enjoying the upcoming season is being aware of the things (and people) that affect us:
Manage your expectations
With so much going on, particularly with other people, this may not be the best time to expect perfection. Don't set yourself up for undue stress by hosting parties for dozens of people, complete with a gourmet menu and stunning decor. Starting with modest and achievable expectations increases the likelihood that you will avoid disappointment.
Get a Good Night's Rest...
Don't deprive yourself of sleep to get more done. Sleep deprivation is a major mood killer. Consider scaling back your to-do list and get some rest. An irritable host will be noticed long before the place cards and napkin rings that you stayed up until 2 a.m. to finish.
...Every Night
Sleep is a major factor in mood. With a holiday schedule full of late-night parties, hours of travel, shopping, cooking and cleaning you quickly find yourself deprived of a few hours night after night.
Adopting a sleep schedule that is radically different from the schedule you keep during the year can produce jetlag-like symptoms of fatigue, insomnia, and irritability. Children are especially susceptible to this. If a young child's schedule becomes varied and unstable, his or her mood will surely sour, no matter what's happening.
Avoid "crashing"
The holidays are filled with foods that initially boost our mood and then promptly cause sugar crashes that could last for hours, sluggishness, and bloating.
Eat healthy meals throughout the holidays and snack on healthier options such as fruits and vegetables before a party so that you are less likely to fill up on junk food and sweets. Including healthier foods in your diet will stabilize your blood sugar, rather than cause it to spike, which means a happier and more energetic you.
Know your limits
We all know the holidays can be a prime time for the airing of family issues and grievances. If visiting a particular relative ruins the holidays for you, devise a new plan that limits your exposure to that person or situation.
If having dinner with a cantankerous aunt leaves you with resentment and ill feelings for days afterward, skip it. It's better to exercise good self-care over the holidays than to agree to plans that will result in a tense atmosphere and hurt feelings.
Make time for you
People often forget to prioritize themselves throughout the year and it gets even worse over the holidays. Take some time just for yourself. If you haven't had a chance to do this during the day, set aside time before bed to wind down and relax. Even a half hour walk or soak in the tub at the end of the day will make a world of difference.
Still tossing and turning all night?
If you find yourself lying in bed with visions of budgets, menus and obligations running through your head -- get out of bed. Leave your room to find something that relaxes you and return to bed when you are sleepy. Being upset or awake in the place where you should be finding rest can lead to longer term associations between your bed and stress and anxiety.
